شما به خودتان وابسته‌اید: چرا تغییر این‌قدر سخت است و چه کاری می‌توانید در مورد آن انجام دهید (کتاب زندگی)

This book gives you a concrete process with nine clear steps tohelp you make your change. It is born out of both my professional andeducational experiences. As an executive coach, I have helped hundreds of corporate clients, business owners, salespeople, and variousindividuals make difficult changes. I’ve helped them make changes totheir leadership style, the effectiveness of their communication andrelationships, the control they have over their emotions, and manyother areas. As an undergraduate student in psychology and then asa graduate student in organizational psychology, I studied personalchange and resistance and learned how a clear and effective processcan greatly improve an individual’s ability to change. All of us have things about ourselves we'd like to change. Maybe you want to be more organized, healthier, thinner, or more outspoken. Or perhaps you want to procrastinate less, quit smoking, listen better, or be a better leader. Whatever you want to change, you probably believe that your success depends on your conviction. The fact of the matter is, willpower alone won't get you to change.Noah Blumenthal illustrates how each of us becomes so thoroughly conditioned to act in old, counterproductive ways that negative behaviors become part of our very being. In a very real sense we become addicted to ourselves. The problem, he explains, isn't that you aren't trying hard enough, but that you've never learned the right way to make difficult changes. Here, he details a proven three-stage strategy—illuminated with practical tools, techniques, and exercises—for breaking self-addictions and conquering damaging behaviors like anger, workaholism, risk aversion, procrastination, overeating, under-exercising—just about anything. We all want to change our counterproductive behaviors. Here, Blumenthal offers a step-by-step guide for how to do it successfully. All of us have things about ourselves wed like to change. Maybe you want to be more organized, healthier, thinner, or more outspoken. Or perhaps you want to procrastinate less, quit smoking, listen better, or be a better leader. Whatever you want to change, you probably believe that your success depends on your conviction. The fact of the matter is, willpower alone wont get you to change. Noah Blumenthal illustrates how each of us becomes so thoroughly conditioned to act in old, counterproductive ways that negative behaviors become part of our very being. In a very real sense we become addicted to ourselves. The problem, he explains, isnt that you arent trying hard enough, but that youve never learned the right way to make difficult changes. Here, he details a proven three-stage strategyilluminated with practical tools, techniques, and exercisesfor breaking self-addictions and conquering damaging behaviors like anger, workaholism, risk aversion, procrastination, overeating, under-exercisingjust about anything. We all want to change our counterproductive behaviors. Here, Blumenthal offers a step-by-step guide for how to do it successfully. Though there is not a lot of new material here, Noah Blumenthal manages to combine diverse ideas and create an extremely practical guide to personal change. He takes in two valuable elements. First, he is clear and methodical. Some books on change hurl readers into the process, but his multistep plan walks readers through every stage of building awareness and making changes. He demystifies the change process, suggesting small, manageable steps. Second, he insists on the importance of the larger context in determining behavior. Blumenthal gets readers to scour their past, present, future and surroundings for the factors that trigger, reward or support their bad behaviors. Likewise, he insists that readers get feedback from those around them and ask for considerable support. The result is an immediately applicable book. However, the advice might seem somewhat uncomfortable, as it exposes one's efforts to the (supportive) scrutiny of an entire community. getAbstract recommends it to readers who accept the author's call for emotional honesty and are seriously committed to change

Why are so many of our attempts to change unsuccessful? It's not a lack of willpower. The problem is that we try to adopt new, more positive behaviors without first breaking the hold that the old negative behaviors have on us. We can't simply turn these negative behaviors off; in fact, their hold is so strong that, as Blumenthal shows, they have become a part of us. In a very real sense, we're addicted to ou rselves. But self-addiction can be broken. In You're Addicted to You, Blumenthal outlines his proven Circles of Strength approach, a three-stage strategy to help readers conquer damaging behaviors like anger, workaholism, risk aversion, negativity & any bad habit. He offers tools, techniques, and exercises for increasing our awareness of our self-addictions and controlling their impact on ourselves and others. He shows how to make personal and professional changes that actually last. Everyone knows what they want to change; Blumenthal show s readers exactly how to actually do it.

Contents......Page 10 Preface......Page 12 Acknowledgments......Page 18 Introduction: Understanding Self-Addiction......Page 20 Part I: Raising Awareness......Page 37 Step 1: Identify Your Self-Addictions......Page 40 Step 2: Realize the Consequences......Page 54 Step 3: Make Powerful Commitments......Page 64 Part II: Building Support......Page 81 Step 4: Find Help......Page 84 Step 5: Invite Support......Page 100 Step 6: Maintain Effective Support......Page 110 Part III: Taking Action......Page 121 Step 7: Prepare Yourself......Page 124 Step 8: Act in the Moment......Page 138 Step 9: Assess Your Progress......Page 152 Conclusion: Moving Onward......Page 164 Recommended Reading......Page 172 Resources for Traditional Addictions......Page 174 B......Page 176 E......Page 177 G......Page 178 P......Page 179 R......Page 180 S......Page 181 Z......Page 182 About the Author......Page 183