Why you're still single : things your friends would tell you if you promised not to get mad

This book isn't about catching men or reeling anybody in. Catching is for nine-year-olds playing freeze tag, and reeling is for trout. This is about you, considering the possibility that you're tripping over your own feet, no matter how much of an amazing, smart, hot, totally worthwhile ass-kicker you may be as a general rule. Some food for thought: -Don't be the "men are pigs" woman. She's boring. She's unhappy. And the good men don't want her. -Don't demand the right to set arbitrary rules, let alone change them every five minutes. Act like a crazy person and you'll be treated like one. -Realize when he doesn't want to talk and give him that space. Men don't usually feel the need to share as much. Respect that or watch him shut down even more. . . . In other words: If you're looking for a different approach, this book has one.

this Book Isn't About Catching Men Or Reeling Anybody In. Catching Is For Nine-year-olds Playing Freeze Tag, And Reeling Is For Trout. This Is About You, Considering The Possibility That You're Tripping Over Your Own Feet—no Matter How Much Of An Amazing, Smart, Hot, Totally Worthwhile Ass-kicker You May Be As A General Rule. Some Food For Thought:
• Don't Be The “men Are Pigs” Woman. She's Boring. She's Unhappy. And The Good Men Don't Want Her.
• Don't Demand The Right To Set Arbitrary Rules, Let Alone Change Them Every Five Minutes. Act Like A Crazy Person And You'll Be Treated Like One.
• Realize When He Doesn't Want To Talk And Give Him That Space. Men Don't Usually Feel The Need To Share As Much. Respect That Or Watch Him Shut Down Even More.

. . . In Other Words: If You're Looking For A Different Approach, This Book Has One.

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in This Distinctive Approach To The Dating Game, Katz, Founder Of An Online Dating Consulting Service, And Columnist Holmes Team Up To Help Readers Become Aware Of Their Actions To Prevent Repeating Mistakes. They Cite Such Dating Turnoffs As Trash Talking The Opposite Sex, Playing Games, And Nursing Grudges. Gender-specific Annoyances Addressed Include A Woman's Tendency To Overtalk And Overanalyze Conversations And A Man's Tendency To Give Advice But Not To Take It. Mixing Humor With Practical Tips, The Authors Pack A Lot Of Relevant Information Into This Slim Volume, Through Which Both Young Men And Young Women Will Enjoy Thumbing. Recommended For All Public Libraries. Copyright 2006 Reed Business Information.

Why You’re Still Single is not about chasing men, so you will not need a butterfly net. It is not about making them chase you, because they are not wolves and you are not a bunny. Relationship experts Evan Marc Katz and Linda Holmes do not suggest that you treat men like hostile alien presences, pretend you don’t understand football, buy padded bras, or refuse to call people back. But the benefit of other people’s experience might point out a few things that are tripping you up, no matter how much of an amazing, smart, hot, totally worthwhile ass-kicker you may be as a general rule. They recommend: Honesty (usually), playing fair, shutting up (sometimes), speaking up (other times), respecting that voice in your head that says "You’re doing WHAT?", making compromises, knowing when to cut bait, good sex, giving yourself a break, being needlessly generous, and periodically leaving your apartment. They don’t recommend: Pretending to like what you don’t like, treating winking and giggling like a Get Out Of Jail Free card, testing people, stubbornness, martyrdom, talking everything to death, and convincing yourself that you’re desperate. Women who hate men who hate women Do I want to date right now? I don't know maybe The desperation tango Your friends may be hazardous to your health Insecurity kills more relationships than infidelity Tip your baggage handler The balance of backbone The power of no You are what you hate The right to change your mind should be revoked Don't play games Guys don't go both ways The platinum rule Use honesty to manipulate Jealousy? ha! Humpty dumpty did not live happily ever after I'm sorry, we don't make change I think my ear is numb Diminishing returns Two become one? Everything you say can and will be used against you Boyfriends with boy (and girl) friends I just love your shoes! Get over it The equal time rule The beauty myth is not a myth Good girls don't Who are you and what did you do with my girlfriend? Deal breakers Rose colored glasses don't actually make the world rosy Disciples, acolytes, and other unequal partners Hitting on 20. An online dating consultant and a TV columnist share the secrets of finding and maintaining personal relationships, offering a series of helpful guidelines on how eliminate negative behaviors and attitudes that affect one's bonds with others