When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community: Words to Say and Things to Do (A 36-Hour Day Book)

A guide to help family and friends navigate the emotional and practical challenges they face when someone they love is living in community care. Life changes dramatically for the entire family when the decision is made to move a person who has dementia from home to community care. Rachael Wonderlin, a gerontologist, dementia care expert, and popular dementia care blogger, helps caregivers cope with the difficult behaviors, emotions, and anxieties that both they and their loved one may experience. Writing from her own practice and drawing on the latest research in gerontology and dementia, Wonderlin explains the different kinds of dementia, details the wide range of care communities available for people who have dementia, and speaks empathetically to the worry and guilt many families feel. "Do not let anyone make you feel like you have taken the 'easy way out' by choosing a dementia care community," she writes. "You are still going to deal with a lot of challenging behaviors, concerns, and questions regarding your loved one's care." When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community is an accessible guide offering answers to such questions as: How do I choose a place for my loved one to live? What can I find out by visiting a candidate memory-care community twice? What do I do if my loved one asks about going home? How can I improve the quality of my visits? What is the best way to handle conflict between residents, or between the resident and staff? How can I cope with my loved one's sundowning? What do I do if my loved one starts a romantic relationship with another resident? An indispensable book for family members and friends of people with dementia, When Someone You Know is Living in a Dementia Care Community touches the heart while explaining how to make a difficult situation better.

Life changes dramatically for the entire family when the decision is made to move a person who has dementia from home to community care. Rachael Wonderlin, a gerontologist, dementia care expert, and popular dementia care blogger, helps caregivers cope with the difficult behaviors, emotions, and anxieties that both they and their loved one may experience.

Writing from her own practice and drawing on the latest research in gerontology and dementia, Wonderlin explains the different kinds of dementia, details the wide range of care communities available for people who have dementia, and speaks empathetically to the worry and guilt many families feel. "Do not let anyone make you feel like you have taken the 'easy way out' by choosing a dementia care community," she writes. "You are still going to deal with a lot of challenging behaviors, concerns, and questions regarding your loved one's care."

When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community is an accessible guide offering answers to such questions as:

How do I choose a place for my loved one to live?
What can I find out by visiting a candidate memory-care community twice?
What do I do if my loved one asks about going home?
How can I improve the quality of my visits?
What is the best way to handle conflict between residents, or between the resident and staff?
How can I cope with my loved one's sundowning?
What do I do if my loved one starts a romantic relationship with another resident?

An indispensable book for family members and friends of people with dementia, When Someone You Know is Living in a Dementia Care Community touches the heart while explaining how to make a difficult situation better.

Basics of dementia care, and life in a dementia care community. What is long-term care? ; What is dementia? ; What type of dementia is it, and why does it matter? ; When it's time for a dementia care community, and when it's not? ; Caring for people is an imperfect science Communicating with someone who has dementia. Embrace their reality: when loved ones are confused ; Why it doesn't work to reorient people who have dementia ; Why quizzing isn't effective ; Become a dementia detective ; Car keys, cell phones, and wallets Living in a dementia care community. The importance of meaningful activities ; Baby dolls, artificial pets, and the importance of environment ; A note about visiting ; Personal preferences ; The cost of good hygiene ; Move-in day: dropping your loved one off ; Saying goodbye for the day Relationships and dementia. The importance of friendship for people who have dementia ; Sex and partnership in a dementia community ; Trouble with other residents ; Agitation in the evening: preventing and coping with sundowning ; Day trips and outings ; She doesn't recognize me Challenges and changes in advanced dementia care. The right approach when it comes to aggression ; Hallucinations and delusional thinking ; Aphasia, second languages, and word salads ; Dietary changes ; Caregiver stress and cultivating patience ; Preserving hope.