What Do You Say after You Say Hello: Gain Control of Your Conversations and Relationships

From the master of transactional analysis, What Do You Say After You Say Hello? explains what makes the winners win, the losers lose, and the in-betweens so boring... In this book, Dr Eric Berne reveals how everyone's life follows a predetermined script - a script they compose for themselves during early childhood. The script may be a sad one, it may be a successful one; it decides how a person will relate to their colleagues, what sort of person they will marry, how many children they will have, and even what circumstances they will die in... What Do You Say After You Say Hello? demonstrates how each life script gets written, how it works and, more importantly, how anyone can improvise or change their script to make a happy ending. It gives you the insight to recognise the underlying motivations behind your actions and better understand your own psychology. AS RECOMMENDED BY PHILIPPA PERRY IN THE GUARDIAN: 'This is about learning what adaptations you may unconsciously have built up throughout your life and how much easier it is to connect after we have let those defences go' Have you ever met someone who seems to get their way in every conversation they have? This book explains why. From the multimillion-bestselling author of GAMES PEOPLE PLAY and one of the godfathers of modern psychology, perfect for fans of Philippa Perry, Dale Carnegie and James Clear. ' More interesting and ambitious than his best-selling "Games People Play ,"... the primary virtue of Berne's descriptions is... their comprehensibility and accessibility. Eric Berne has [offered] therapy to many thousands and [provided] advice and counsel to millions more. ' - NEW YORK TIMES What Readers are saying: ***** - 'This book changed my life; reading it helped me to identify the life scripts that I was unconsciously following.' ***** - 'With almost every page my understanding of human conversation improved by an insane amount.' ***** - 'If you want to communicate well and to understand yourself - and other people - better, you ab-so-lu-te-ly need to read Eric Berne.' ******************************************************************************* This book explains what makes the winners win, the losers lose, and the in-betweens so boring... In it, Dr Eric Berne reveals how everyone's life follows a predetermined script - a script they compose for themselves during early childhood . The script may be a sad one, it may be a successful one; it decides how a person will relate to his colleagues , what sort of person he will marry , how many children he will have, and even what sort of bed he will die in... What Do You Say After You Say Hello? demonstrates how each life script gets written, how it works and, more important, how anyone can improvise or change his script to make a happy ending... As a psychiatrist, Dr. Berne found that each person, in early childhood--under the powerful influence of his parents--writes his own script that will determine the general course of his life. That script dictates what kind of person he will marry, how many children he will have, even what kind of bed he will die in. Most of all, it determines whether he will be a winner or a loser, a spendthrift or a skinflint, a tower of strength or a doomed alcoholic. Some people, says Berne, have scripts that call for them to fail in their professions, or to be repeatedly disappointed in love, or to be chronic invalids. Here, he demonstrates how each life script gets written, how it works, and how each of us can break free of it to help us attain real autonomy and true fulfillment