Undefended Love: The way that you felt about yourself when you first fell in love is the way that you can feel all the time

This book precisely maps a unique journey that turns the problems and conflicts that inevitably arise in relationships into opportunities for deeper connection. Illuminating case studies, guided self-inquiries, and challenging exercises help you discover how to engage your partner in a deeper dialogue and find ways of expressing the most profound and untamed aspects of your nature.

The path to true intimacy is a difficult one. In this book, two psychotherapists teach that everyone has the capacity to love without defenses or qualifications and to know themselves so deeply that real intimacy becomes a lifelong expression of their deepest nature. Problems and conflicts that inevitably arise in relationships can become opportunities for a deeper connection. Through illuminating case studies, guided self-inquiries, and challenging exercises, readers learn to engage in a deeper dialogue with their partners, express profound aspects of their nature, and discover that undefended loving can bolster inner strengths they never knew they had. "This beautifully written work is a stunning breakthrough in the field of books on relationships." - Pat Holt, former book review editor, San Francisco Chronicle

Most of us hope for an intimate relationship, where the connection between us is direct, unmediated, and heart-to-heart. This book offers a challenging new way for readers to reach just such a higher level inside themselves, where they can experience a relationship that is fresh and unrehearsed.