The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition: How to recognize it and how to respond

In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life. In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse - and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior - from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse. Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse - and the abuser. This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time! In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation, understanding, and encouragement for your decision to change the situation. If you or someone you know answers "yes" to one or more of the following questions, this book is required reading:Does your partner seem irritated or angry at you several times a week?Does he deny being angry when he clearly is?Do your attempts to discuss feelings of pain or emotional distress leave you with the feeling that the issue has not been resolved?Do you frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by his responses, as though you were each speaking a different language?Almost everyone has heard of or knows someone who is part of a verbally abusive relationship-if they're not involved in one themselves. In The Verbally Abusive Relationship, you'll find validation, understanding, and encouragement for your decision to change the situation. In this expanded second edition, author Patricia Evans explores the damaging effects of verbal abuse on children and the family, and offers valuable insight and recommendations to the abusers, as well as those who seek therapeutic support.Patricia Evans, speaker, consultant, and founder of the Evans Interpersonal Communications Institute, conducts workshops and professional training throughout the country.

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From the Publisher: In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life. In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse-and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior-from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse. Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse-and the abuser. This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time! In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse - and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior - from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse - and the abuser.This timely new edition of __The Verbally Abusive Relationship__ puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time! Foreword Introduction Part 1. 1. Evaluating your own experience 2. Two kinds of power : a broad perspective 3. Personal power : a look at reality II 4. The abuser and the abusive relationship : a look at reality I 5. The consequences of verbal abuse 6. The partner's feelings 7. Obstacles and indicators Part 2. 8. Characteristics and categories of verbal abuse 9. The anger addict 10. Conditioning and the partner 11. The recognition of verbal abuse and asking for change 12. Responding with impact to verbal abuse 13. Recovery 14. Looking back 15. The underlying dynamics : some reasons why 16. Stress and verbal abuse 17. Irrational behavior to the extreme 18. About therapy : and for the therapist 19. Children and verbal abuse Conclusion : Where do we go from here? Appendix. Frequently asked questions Bibliography Survey