The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women : How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys. Foreword Violet Blue xiii Introduction xvii Chapter 1 Sexual Play 1 A New Vocabulary for Sex The Best Medicine Embracing Our Complexity and Diversity Chapter 2 What Works, What Doesn't, and Why 8 An Anatomy Review An Oral Review Sidebar: A Different Kind of Blow Job Penetration How to Ask Masturbation Vibrators Variety of Pleasures One Is Not Always Enough Emotional Erogenous Zones Tuning In Chapter 3 The Physical Experience of Orgasm 31 The Myth of the Definitive Orgasm Beyond Vaginal and Clitoral Combination Orgasms Surface Versus Depth Pulsing and Contractions Pregnancy and Orgasm A Vocabulary for Orgasm Multiple Orgasms Chapter 4 The Energetic Experience of Orgasm 50 The Nonphysical Components of Orgasm Chemistry: A Psychic Connection Emotional Orgasms The Intellectual Component: Focusing the Mind Aftershocks Simultaneous and Empathic Orgasms Energy Movement within the Body Alignment Visuals The Power of Fantasy Sound Extended Orgasm Chapter 5 The Spiritual Experience of Orgasm 78 The Feminine Intuition and Feelings Separation, Oneness, and Passion Tantra Kundalini The Breath Meditation Love, Sex, and Sanity Chapter 6 The Elusive Orgasm 97 Variations in Desire Hysterectomies, Medications, and Aging Disappearing Orgasms Recognizing an Orgasm Anor-gasmic Women Cultural Conditioning Learning to Come Great Expectations The Need to Please Faking Orgasm Do Men Know When We're Faking It? Chapter 7 Early Sexual Experiences 121 A Child's View of Sex Crowing Up Without Information Embracing Our Passion Negative Messages Why Some of Us Love Our Sexual Selves and Some of Us Don't When Sex Is Sex and When It's Not Sexual Abuse of Children Recovery Chapter 8 Relationships 140 Bodies Take Your Time Partners Withholding Feelings A Great Love Doesn't Always Guarantee Great Sex Communication The Power of No The Power of Yes Getting Turned On Dealing with Difficult Feelings Sidebar: How to Recognize a Feeling When It Hits You in the Face Getting Down to Business Take a Risk, But Don't Take It Seriously Asserting Ourselves Claiming Our Passion It Hurts So Good Fears Versus Passion Chapter 9 Penetration and the G-Spot 169 Lubrication The PC muscle Penetration Is Not Essential But Some of Us Really Love It! Virginity: The Arduous Process of Losing It Enjoying Penetration The Astounding Vagina Taking It Slowly The G-Spot Location, Location, Location Toys To Use a Dildo...or Not Use a Dildo Ode to the Dildo Other Orifices Chapter 10 Ejaculation, Fisting, and Anal Sex 189 The G-Spot and Ejaculation What Is It and Where Does It Come From? Who? When? How Much? The Relationship of Orgasm to Ejaculation The Power of Ejaculation Vaginal Fisting The How-Tos of Vaginal Fisting Vaginal Fisting and Orgasms Anal Sex Chapter 11 The Purpose of Orgasm 208 From Pain to Pleasure, and Beyond... Responsible Sex, Responsible Living Working with Energy Empowerment Appendix A Safer Sex 217 Appendix B Resources 222 Appendix C Questionnaire 237 About the Author 245 Index 246