The Seven Core Issues Workbook for Parents of Traumatized Children and Teens : A Guide to Help You Explore Feelings and Overcome Emotional Challenges in Your Family

Based on a hugely successful US model, The Seven Core Issues Workbook is accessible and parent-friendly with brief explanations, activities and exercises. The Seven Core Issues are Loss, Rejection, Shame/Guilt, Grief, Identity, Intimacy and Mastery/Control. The workbook gives parents the ability to explore their own issues as well as their child's through varies experiential exercise and activities. Parents can identify and address their core issues in order to more effectively assist and support the child's core issues. The workbook and its exercises allow for a variety of diverse groups to use the book with ease, making it the essential tool for all individuals to grow and heal themselves and their families. The Seven Core Issues Workbook for Parents of Traumatized Children and Teens 7 Cover 1 Of related interest 6 Title page 7 Copyright 8 Contents 9 Introduction 15 1. Loss 27 The Myths in Adoption, Foster Care and Kinship 28 Life Loss History Questionnaire 29 My Loss History Timeline 31 My Loss History Timeline Activity 32 Four Kinds of Losses 33 Core Losses Impact the Mind, Heart and Body 36 Core Losses and the Mind 37 Core Losses and the Heart 38 Core Losses and the Body 39 My Beliefs About Parenting 46 My Fantasy of Me as a Parent 47 Journey to Becoming a Family 48 My Sensory Profile 52 My Shadow Self 53 Managing My Emotional Triggers 55 The Power of Our Attention 56 Flowers vs. Weeds 58 My Child’s Sensory Profile 59 My Child’s Sensory Triggers 61 My Sensory Trigger Plan 63 Loss: My Key Points List 64 2. Rejection 65 Attachment and Relational Self-Survey 67 My Feeling Garden 69 My Attachment Questionnaire 70 Attachment: Purpose and How it Helps the Child 73 Patterns of Parent-Child Attachment 74 Attachment: Our Internal Working Model 75 My Internal Working Model 76 Attachment Disruptions and the Internal Working Model 77 Circles of Belonging 78 Rejection Hurts! 79 My Worry Bubble 81 Rejection and My Emotions 82 Rejection in Adoption and Permanency 83 Rejection Impacts the Mind, Heart and Body 84 Cycle of Rejection 85 Rejection: Words Matter! 86 Rejection and My Child 87 Adoption and Permanency Positive Language 88 Rejection: My Key Points List 89 3. Shame and Guilt 91 Shame Impacts the Mind, Heart and Body 93 De-Shaming My Mind 94 Shame in My Heart 95 Shame and My Body 96 Growing Up in My Family 97 The Two Ss 98 What Happens in Childhood Doesn’t Stay in Childhood! 101 Facts About ACEs 103 Adverse Child Experiences 104 Finding Your ACE Score 105 My ACE Story 107 What to do With All That STRESS! 110 Good Stress vs Bad Stress 112 Self-Esteem Beliefs 113 Guilt and Shame in the Parenting Game 114 Four Ingredients of Self-Esteem 115 Connectiveness Questionnaire 116 Uniqueness Questionnaire 118 Power Questionnaire 120 Role Models Questionnaire 122 Liking Myself 124 Radical Self-Acceptance 126 Shame and Guilt: My Key Points List 127 4. Grief 129 Myths About Grief 131 My Grief Questionnaire 132 Grief in My Mind, Heart and Body 135 Grief and My Mind 136 Grief and My Heart 137 Grief and My Body 138 Grief Is Messy! 139 Grief and My Family 140 Grief in Adoption, Foster Care and Kinship 141 The Attachment Pyramid and Grief 143 The Gifts of a Secure Attachment 143 Childhood Trauma and ­Attachment Disruptions 144 Grief and the Story of Adoption 145 Parenting Triggers and Responses 146 Grief and the Spectrum of Human Intelligences 147 What is Emotional Intelligence? 148 My EQ 149 The Language of Emotion 150 If Feelings Could Talk 151 My Angry Volcano 152 Activities to Discharge Pain and Grief 153 Grief and My Child’s Story of Adoption 154 Healing My Parenting Ouches 155 Forgiving Myself 156 Welcoming a Child into My Heart 158 Grief: My Key Points List 160 5. Identity 161 My Identity Questionnaire 163 The Self as a House! 166 My Parental Identity 168 Infertility and Identity 170 Identity: Pieces of the Puzzle 172 One Amazing Child! 174 Identity, Diversity and Adoption 175 How Diverse Is My World? 176 Identity and White ­Privilege Questionnaire 177 Building Racial and Ethnic Identity 180 Family Storytelling 181 A Parents’ Guide to Difficult Conversations 182 Identity: My Key Points List 184 6. Intimacy 185 My Intimacy Questionnaire 187 The Different Kinds of Intimacy 190 Intimacy and My Mind, Heart and Body 191 Intimacy and My Mind 192 Intimacy and My Heart 193 Intimacy and My Body 194 My Communication Plan 195 What Am I REALLY Trying to Communicate? 196 Guidelines for Improving Communication 197 Where Did the Intimacy Go? 198 Single Parenting and Intimacy 201 Parenting and Communication 204 Parenting Chart to Strengthen Emotional Intimacy 206 Intimacy Opportunities and ­Barriers in the Constellation 208 Intimacy and Being Adopted 211 Exploring Parenting Curve Balls 213 Tips to talk about the tough stuff 216 Intimacy: My Key Points List 217 7. Mastery and Control 219 My Mastery and Control Questionnaire 221 Losses and Control 224 Weighing the Pros and Cons of Control 226 Why I Fight for CONTROL! 227 To Control or Not to Control! 228 My Thoughts and Feelings Log 229 Seven Core Issues Stuck in Control! 230 What’s Your Zone? 235 Four Steps to Mastery 238 Mastery and the Seven Core Issues 240 Forgiveness and the Core Issues 244 The Gifts of Forgiveness 246 Mastery and Mindful Parenting 247 What Openness in Adoption Means 248 Ten Things Your Child Needs to Hear from YOU 251 Five Stages of Parenting 252 Your Gains from the Journey 254 Mastery and Control: My Key Points List 255 Congratulations to YOU! 256 About the Authors 257 adopted,children;,loss;,control;,identity;,trauma;,grief;,adoptive,parents;,workbook,for,adoptive,parents;,foster,children;,workbook,for,foster,children;,working,with,adoptive,parents;,working,with,foster,parents;,rejection;,shame;,guilt;,intimacy;,mastery;,foster,care adopted children,loss,control,identity,trauma,grief,adoptive parents,workbook for adoptive parents,foster children,workbook for foster children,working with adoptive parents,working with foster parents,rejection,shame,guilt,intimacy,mastery,foster care Dealing with the Seven Core Issues of Adoption and Permanency has never been easier than with this Seven Core Issues workbook for parents. Based on the framework of the highly popular Seven Core Issues US model, this workbook will help parents, and their families identify and resolve their core issues and bring about healing.