The secret thoughts of successful women : why capable people suffer from the impostor syndrome and how to thrive in spite of it

Its only because they like me. I was in the right place at the right time. I just work harder than the others. I dont deserve this. Its just a matter of time before I am found out. Someone must have made a terrible mistake. If you are a working woman, chances are this internal monologue sounds all too familiar. And youre not alone. From the high-achieving Ph.D. candidate convinced shes only been admitted to the program because of a clerical error to the senior executive who worries others will find out shes in way over her head, a shocking number of accomplished women in all career paths and at every level feel as though they are faking itimpostors in their own lives and careers. While the impostor syndrome is not unique to women, women are more apt to agonize over tiny mistakes, see even constructive criticism as evidence of their shortcomings, and chalk up their accomplishments to luck rather than skill. They often unconsciously overcompensate with crippling perfectionism, overpreparation, maintaining a lower profile, withholding their talents and opinions, or never finishing important projects. When they do succeed, they think, Phew, I fooled em again. An internationally known speaker, Valerie Young has devoted her career to understanding womens most deeply held beliefs about themselves and their success. In her decades of in-the-trenches research, she has uncovered the often surprising reasons why so many accomplished women experience this crushing self-doubt. In The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, Young gives these women the solution they have been seeking. Combining insightful analysis with effective advice and anecdotes, she explains what the impostor syndrome is, why fraud fears are more common in women, and how you can recognize the way it manifests in your life. With her empowering, step-by-step plan, you will learn to take ownership of your success, overcome self-doubt, and banish the thought patterns that undermine your ability to feeland actas bright and capable as others already know you are. VALERIE YOUNG is an internationally known workshop leader and public speaker and the former marketing manager at a Fortune 200 company. Her work has been cited in such publications as Womens Day, Redbook, Fitness, Self, Cosmopolitan, Inc. , and the Boston Globe, Chicago Tribune, and Globe and Mail . She lives in Montague, Massachusetts. Visit the author online at (http://www.impostorsyndrome.com) www.impostorsyndrome.com . Learn to take ownership of your success, overcome self-doubt, and banish the thought patterns that undermine your ability to feel—and act—as bright and capable as others already know you are with this award-winning book by Valerie Young. It’s only because they like me. I was in the right place at the right time. I just work harder than the others. I don’t deserve this. It’s just a matter of time before I am found out. Someone must have made a terrible mistake. If you are a working woman, chances are this inter­nal monologue sounds all too familiar. And you’re not alone. From the high-achieving Ph.D. candidate convinced she’s only been admitted to the program because of a clerical error to the senior executive who worries others will find out she’s in way over her head, a shocking number of accomplished women in all ca­reer paths and at every level feel as though they are faking it—impostors in their own lives and careers. While the impostor syndrome is not unique to women, women are more apt to agonize over tiny mistakes, see even constructive criticism as evi­dence of their shortcomings, and chalk up their accomplishments to luck rather than skill. They often unconsciously overcompensate with crippling perfec­tionism, overpreparation, maintaining a lower pro­file, withholding their talents and opinions, or never finishing important projects. When they do succeed, they think, Phew, I fooled ’em again. An internationally known speaker, Valerie Young has devoted her career to understanding women’s most deeply held beliefs about themselves and their success. In her decades of in-the-trenches research, she has uncovered the often surprising reasons why so many accomplished women experience this crushing self-doubt. In The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, Young gives these women the solution they have been seek­ing. Combining insightful analysis with effective ad­vice and anecdotes, she explains what the impostor syndrome is, why fraud fears are more common in women, and how you can recognize the way it mani­fests in your life. It's only because they like me. I was in the right place at the right time. I just work harder than the others. I don't deserve this. It's just a matter of time before I am found out. Someone must have made a terrible mistake. If you are a working woman, chances are this internal monologue sounds all too familiar. And you're not alone. From the high-achieving Ph. D. candidate convinced she's only been admitted to the program because of a clerical error to the senior executive who worries others will find out she's in way over her head, a shocking number of accomplished women in all career paths and at every level feel as though they are faking it'impostors in their own lives and careers. While the impostor syndrome is not unique to women, women are more apt to agonize over tiny mistakes, see even constructive criticism as evidence of their shortcomings, and chalk up their accomplishments to luck rather than skill. They often unconsciously overcompensate with crippling perfectionism, overpreparation, maintaining a lower profile, withholding their talents and opinions, or never finishing important projects. When they do succeed, they think, Phew, I fooled 'em again. An internationally known speaker, Valerie Young has devoted her career to understanding women's most deeply held beliefs about themselves and their success. In her decades of in-the-trenches research, she has uncovered the often surprising reasons why so many accomplished women experience this crushing self-doubt. In The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, Young gives these women the solution they have been seeking. Combining insightful analysis with effective advice and anecdotes, she explains what the impostor syndrome is, why fraud fears are more common in women, and how you can recognize the way it manifests in your life. With her empowering, step-by-step plan, you will learn to take ownership of your success, overcome self-doubt, and banish the thought patterns that undermine your ability to feel'and act'as bright and capable as others already know you are Title Page Copyright Dedication Contents Introduction [1]: Feel Like an Impostor? Join the Club [2]: Consider the Source [3]: It’s Not All in Your Head [4]: Hiding Out [5]: What Do Luck, Timing, Connections, and Personality Really Have to Do with Success? [6]: The Competence Rule Book for Mere Mortals [7]: Responding to Failure, Mistakes, and Criticism [8]: Success and the Female Drive to Care and Connect [9]: Is It “Fear” of Success or Something Else? [10]: Why “Fake It Till You Make It” Is Harder for Women—and Why You Must [11]: Rethinking Risk Taking and Cultivating Chutzpah [12]: Playing Big Appendix: The Dirty Little Secret About the Impostor Syndrome Notes Acknowledgments Author’s Note About the Author Feel like an impostor? Join the club Consider the source It's not all in your head Hiding out What do luck, timing, connections, and personality really have to do with success? The competence rule book for mere mortals Responding to failure, mistakes, and criticism Success and the female drive to care and connect Are you really afraid of success? Why "fake it 'til you make it" is harder for women-and why you must Rethinking risk-taking cultivating chutzpah Playing big or who do you think you are?