The Primal Wound: A Transpersonal View of Trauma, Addiction, and Growth (S U N Y Series in the Philosophy of Psychology)

Argues that a primal wounding of the human spirit occurs in earliest human life that disrupts fundamental relationships and leads to anxiety, loneliness, and alienation; and shows how this wounding can be redeemed through therapy and through living one's life differently.To many of us, modern life is a headlong rush to avoid dark feelings that threaten to disrupt our lives at every turn. In order to block the surging tide of this hidden level of experience, we become enthralled with violence, sex, and mass media and addicted to alcohol, drugs, and power, and we compulsively strive for romance, success, and control. All of this, according to the authors, can be traced to the primal wound--a dark specter of isolation, abandonment, and alienation haunting human life.The primal wound is the result of a violation we all suffer in various ways, beginning in early childhood and continuing throughout life. Because we are treated not as individual, unique human beings but as objects, our intrinsic, authentic sense of self is annihilated. This primal wounding breaks the fundamental relationships that form the fabric of human existence: the relationship to oneself, to other people, to the natural world, and to a sense of transpersonal meaning symbolized in concepts such as the Divine, the Ground of Being, and Ultimate Reality. In this book, Firman and Gila apply object relations theory, self-psychology, transpersonal psychology, and psychosynthesis to the issues of psychological wounding, healing, and growth and show how this wounding can be redeemed through therapy and through changing one's way of living."Firman and Gila integrate important material from diverse schools of psychology and then expand it with their personal touch. The Primal Wound presents a scholarly--yet understandable to the educated lay person--description of some of the important dynamics of psychological wounding from a broad perspective, while also going deep into the soul and even exploring our relationship to God. There is little available on this topic and in the area of trauma psychology." -- Charles Whitfield, M.D., author of Memory and Abuse: Remembering and Healing the Wounds of Trauma"I believe this book's central thesis to be highly provocative and important. Its strength is that it uses the idea of the 'primal wound' as a focus for a diverse collection of ideas from various sectors of the psychological and transpersonal literature. This kind of integrative scholarly work is very valuable. " -- John Suler, author of Contemporary Psychoanalysis and Eastern ThoughtJohn Firman and Ann Gila are teachers, authors, and psychotherapists in private practice in Palo Alto, California. Both were trained in psychosynthesis in the early 1970s, and Firman trained with its founder, Roberto Assagioli. They are adjunct faculty members at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and lead public and professional programs both in the United States and abroad. Published in 1647, these ten tales are among the earliest narratives in Western literature to focus on women's experiences and points of view in love relationships.The Disenchantments of Love, published in Spain in 1647 by Maria de Zayas, is a stunning collection of stories about women's amorous experiences in a patriarchal and imperialistic society during the turbulent seventeenth century. Now available for the first time in English translation, the ten examplary novellas are set within an encompassing frame story that continues from the first collection, The Enchantments of Love: Amorous and Exemplary Novels, published in 1637. Both collections of love stories were immediately popular because of the novelty of their plots and the gender of their author.What is new in the disenchantments is the deliberately feminist purpose stated in the rules for telling stories: only women are to narrate “true cases intended to disenchant women about men's deceptions,” pointedly denying men the opportunity to dominate the storytelling. In the frame, however, the subtly ironic commentaries on the stories highlight the differences between masculine and feminine points of view. The conclusion of the frame reiterates the exemplary message that women are safe from men's physical and psychological abuse only in the sisterhood of the convent.These ten sensational and bizarre tales focus on the ways lovers deceive women in order to “get their way,” through magic, cross dressing as women, and rape—to the torture and murder of innocent women at the hands of their protectors—their fathers, brothers, and husbands. The graphic depictions of women's mutilated bodies are unprecedented in Western literature, as is the meticulous description of domestic violence that has traditionally remained private and hidden. A fascinating dimension of these fast-paced narratives is what they suggest through omission, silence, and ambiguous detail: the untold story that fires the reader's imagination.H. Patsy Boyer is Professor of Spanish at Colorado State University. She has also translated Maria de Zayas's The Enchantments of Love: Amorous and Exemplary Novels, and translated and coedited Critical Views on Vicente Aleixandre's Poetry. The Disenchantments of Love, published in Spain in 1647 by Maria de Zayas, is a stunning collection of stories about women’s amorous experiences in a patriarchal and imperialistic society during the turbulent seventeenth century. Now available for the first time in English translation, the ten exemplary novellas are set within an encompassing frame story that continues from the first collection, The Enchantments of Love: Amorous and Exemplary Novels, published in 1637. Both collections of love stories were immediately popular because of the novelty of their plots and the gender of their author. What is new in the disenchantments is the deliberately feminist purpose stated in the rules for telling stories: only women are to narrate "true cases intended to disenchant women about men’s deceptions," pointedly denying men the opportunity to dominate the storytelling. In the frame, however, the subtly ironic commentaries on the stories highlight the differences between masculine and feminine points of view. The conclusion of the frame reiterates the exemplary message that women are safe from men’s physical and psychological abuse only in the sisterhood of the convent. These ten sensational and bizarre tales focus on the ways lovers deceive women in order to "get their way," through magic, cross dressing as women, and rape--to the torture and murder of innocent women at the hands of their protectors--their fathers, brothers, and husbands. The graphic depictions of women’s mutilated bodies are unprecedented in Western literature, as is the meticulous description of domestic violence that has traditionally remained private and hidden. A fascinating dimension of these fast-paced narratives is what they suggest through omission, silence, and ambiguous detail: the untold story that fires the reader’s imagination. The Disenchantments Of Love, Published In Spain In 1647 By Maria De Zayas, Is A Stunning Collection Of Stories About Women's Amorous Experiences In A Patriarchal And Imperialistic Society During The Turbulent Seventeenth Century. Now Available For The First Time In English Translation, The Ten Exemplary Novelas Are Set Within An Encompassing Frame Story That Continues From The First Collection, The Enchantments Of Love: Amorous And Exemplary Novels, Published In 1637.--book Jacket. These Sensational And Bizarre Tales Focus On The Ways Lovers Deceive Women In Order To Get Their Way, Through Magic, Cross-dressing As Women, And Rape - To The Torture And Murder Of Innocent Women At The Hands Of Their Protectors - Their Fathers, Brothers, And Husbands. A Fascinating Dimension Of These Fast-paced Narratives Is What They Suggest Through Omission, Silence, And Ambiguous Detail: The Untold Story That Fires The Reader's Imagination.--book Jacket. First Night: Frame Story. 1. Slave To Her Own Lover. 2. Most Infamous Revenge. 3. His Wife's Executioner. 4. Too Late Undeceived -- Second Night: Frame Story. 5. Innocence Punished. 6. Love For The Sake Of Conquest. 7. Marriage Abroad: Portent Of Doom. 8. Traitor To His Own Blood -- Third Night: Frame Story. 9. Triumph Over Persecution. 10. The Ravages Of Vice. María De Zayas ; A Translation Of The Desengaños Amorosos By H. Patsy Boyer. Includes Bibliographical References (p. 24-26). "To many of us, modern life is a headlong rush to avoid dark feelings that threaten to disrupt our lives at every turn. In order to block the surging tide of this hidden level of experience, we become enthralled with violence, sex, and mass media and addicted to alcohol, drugs, and power, and we compulsively strive for romance, success, and control. All of this, according to the authors, can be traced to the primal wound--a dark specter of isolation, abandonment, and alienation haunting human life. The primal wound is the result of a violation we all suffer in various ways, beginning in early childhood and continuing throughout life. Because we are treated not as individual, unique human beings but as objects, our intrinsic, authentic sense of self is annihilated. This primal wounding breaks the fundamental relationships that form the fabric of human existence: the relationship to oneself, to other people, to the natural world, and to a sense of transpersonal meaning symbolized in concepts such as the Divine, the Ground of Being, and Ultimate Reality. In this book Firman and Gila apply object relations theory, self-psychology, transpersonal psychology, and psychosynthesis to the issues of psychological wounding, healing, and growth and show how this wounding can be redeemed through therapy and through changing one's way of living." -- Publisher's description