The Nice Girl Syndrome : Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- and Start Standing Up for Yourself

BHow women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves/b Are you too nice for your own good' Do family members manipulate you' Do coworkers take advantage of you' If this sounds familiar, read iThe Nice Girl Syndrome/i. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself. Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back.ulliShows you how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering onesliIncludes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselvesli"This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers."--IPublishers Weekly/i (starred review)liWritten by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships/ul Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, iThe Nice Girl Syndrome/i shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman.;""Title Page""; ""Copyright Page""; ""Dedication""; ""Acknowledgments""; ""Introduction""; ""PART ONE -- STRONG WOMEN ARENâ€TMT NICE""; ""Chapter 1 -- The High Price of Being Too Nice""; ""What Is a Nice Girl?""; ""How Big a Problem Is the Nice Girl Syndrome?""; ""Is This Book for You?""; ""You Cannot Afford to Be a Nice Girl""; ""Nice Girls Arenâ€TMt Always Nice""; ""The Seven Types of Nice Girls""; ""Nice Girls versus Strong Women""; ""How Do Nice Girls Become Strong Women?""; ""The Four Câ€TMs""; ""Chapter 2 -- How Did We Get So Nice?""; ""The Four Causes of Nice Girl Syndrome"" ""Title Page"" ""Copyright Page"" ""Dedication"" ""Acknowledgments"" ""Introduction"" ""PART ONE -- STRONG WOMEN ARENâ€TMT NICE"" ""Chapter 1 -- The High Price of Being Too Nice"" ""What Is a Nice Girl?"" ""How Big a Problem Is the Nice Girl Syndrome?"" ""Is This Book for You?"" ""You Cannot Afford to Be a Nice Girl"" ""Nice Girls Arenâ€TMt Always Nice"" ""The Seven Types of Nice Girls"" ""Nice Girls versus Strong Women"" ""How Do Nice Girls Become Strong Women?"" ""The Four Câ€TMs"" ""Chapter 2 -- How Did We Get So Nice?"" ""The Four Causes of Nice Girl Syndrome"" ""The Fear Factor""""Chapter 3 -- The Ten False Beliefs That Set Women Up to Be Used and Abused"" ""The Ten False Beliefs"" ""How Do We Reverse This Brainwashing?"" ""PART TWO -- FROM FALSE BELIEFS TO EMPOWERING BELIEFS"" ""Chapter 4 -- Stop Putting Othersâ€TM Feelings and Needs ahead of Your Own"" ""Self-Blame"" ""Other Blind Spots"" ""Nice Girls Also Become Resentful"" ""Childhood Messages"" ""Role Reversal and Parentified Children"" ""Remedies"" ""Chapter 5 -- Stop Believing That Being Nice Will Protect You"" ""Where Did We Get the Idea That Being Nice Would Protect Us?"" ""Believing in Fairness Is Also Magical Thinking""""Where Do Our Ideas about Fairness Come From?"" ""Remedies"" ""Chapter 6 -- Stop Worrying about What Other People Think of You"" ""Women and Self-Image"" ""How Our Public Image Is Created"" ""Pretending"" ""If People Get to Know the Real Me, They Wonâ€TMt Like Me"" ""When What Other People Think Becomes More Important than Your Safety"" ""Remedies"" ""Chapter 7 -- Stop Trying to Be Perfect"" ""Parental Messages"" ""The Legacy of Shame"" ""Your Inner Critic"" ""Our Shadow Self"" ""Remedies"" ""Chapter 8 -- Stop Being Gullible and Naive""""Pretending Can Be Dangerous"" ""No More Mr. Nice Guy"" ""Itâ€TMs Time to Come out of Denial"" ""Remedies"" ""Chapter 9 -- Start Standing Up for Your Rights"" ""Societal Reasons for Womenâ€TMs Difficulty in Standing Up for Themselves"" ""Childhood Experiences and the Fear of Standing Up"" ""How Fear Contributes to the Inability to Stand Up"" ""Remedies"" ""Chapter 10 -- Start Expressing Your Anger"" ""Societal Reasons Girls and Women Have Difficulty Expressing Anger Directly""

How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves

Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself.

Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back.

• Shows you how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones
• Includes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves
• "This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers."-- Publishers Weekly (starred review)
• Written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships

Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman.

How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself. Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back. Shows you how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones Includes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves "This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers."--Publishers Weekly (starred review) Written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman. How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome . In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself. Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, because women who are too nice send the message that they are easy targets and are much more likely to be victimized emotionally, physically, and sexually. She identifies the seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type or types might apply to you. Engel helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations and helps you change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back. Shows you how to confront the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones Includes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves "This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers."— Publishers Weekly (starred review) Written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman. The High Price Of Being Too Nice -- How Did We Get So Nice? -- The Ten False Beliefs That Set Women Up To Be Used And Abused -- Stop Putting Others' Feelings And Needs Ahead Of Your Own -- Stop Believing That Being Nice Will Protect You -- Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Of You -- Stop Trying To Be Perfect -- Stop Being Gullible And Naive -- Start Standing Up For Your Rights -- Start Expressing Your Anger -- Learn To Handle Conflict -- Start Facing The Truth About People -- Start Supporting And Protecting Yourself -- The Four C's : Developing Confidence, Competence, Conviction, And Courage. Beverly Engel. Includes Bibliographical References (p. 236-238) And Index. The high price of being too nice : the 7 types of nice girls How did we get so nice? The ten false beliefs that set women up to be used and abused Stop putting others' needs and feelings ahead of your own Stop believing that being nice will protect you Stop worrying about what other people think of you Stop trying to be perfect Stop being gullible and naive Start standing up for your rights Start expressing your anger Learn to handle conflict Start facing the truth about people Start supporting and protecting yourself The four C's : confidence, competence, conviction, and courage. A noted authority on abuse addresses the issue of women caught in a position of being too nice, making them easy to take advantage of, and offers helpful suggestions on how women can confront the behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs that make them vulnerable and replace them with healthier, more empowering ones A noted therapist helps women overcome the pressure to please and begin living life on their own terms Engel's new book tackles the "nice girl syndrome" for women who have been raised to please those in their lives - at home and at the workplace.