The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else : Recognizing the 27 Types of Narcissism

You’re narcissistic. Yes, you read that correctly. You’re narcissistic, but so am I, your mother, partner, best friend, and neighbor. Perhaps when you hear the word narcissist, you think of someone who believes they're pretty great and doesn't care what anyone else thinks. And while these are some manifestations of narcissism, the experience of narcissism in human beings is fascinatingly nuanced. Overall, the word has a pejorative implication and, thanks to pop psychology, has become a catch-all to describe anyone who possesses higher-than-average confidence and treats people carelessly. Unfortunately, these stereotypes fail to tell us what exactly narcissism is or what it does to us or others when it occurs in everyday life. Well-versed in the Enneagram personality model and knowing that there are no one-size-fits-all criteria for identifying narcissism, Sterlin L. Mosley realized there had to be at least nine variations of narcissistic personality disorder. The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else is about the convergence between the Enneagram personality types, the three primary instinctual drives, and narcissism. We all have a touch of one of the 27 subtypes of narcissism described in this book within us. So maybe you’re not so enamored with yourself that you can’t stop staring at yourself in the mirror, but who among us hasn't become so singularly focused on an aspect of ourselves or our experience that we've lost sight of the world around us? Narcissism isn't in and of itself a problem but rather an occasional condition of modern life in an individualistic society. Explore narcissistic tendencies that may appear in your own life and learn how to challenge those tendencies to continue to push for greater compassion and empathy in your everyday life and those around you. This book's purpose isn't to tell you how wrong, terrible, or defective you or anyone else with narcissistic tendencies are (which, remember, is all of us). Instead, this book is meant to create better understanding and forgiveness for ourselves and others. Helps readers to identify how narcissism shows up in their own lives and when everyday narcissism becomes destructive. The Narcissist in You and Everyone Elseintroduces readers to the notion of narcissism as a spectrum-based model of increasing loss of empathy (due to a variety of factors including genetics, trauma, abuse, conditioning and environment) that can give way to a propensity toward narcissism. Through studies and examples, Sterlin Mosley defines the 27 subtypes of narcissism and how these variations differ from the limited description of the narcissistic as popularized in psychological literature, movies, and other forms of popular culture. He offers readers an opportunity to explore how their own narcissistic tendencies may show up and how to challenge those tendencies to continue to push for greater compassion and empathy for ourselves and others. Using the Enneagram model of personality, Mosley explores and explains the variety of narcissistic tendencies and types and reveals useful tips on how to best to manage those tendencies in ourselves and the narcissists around us. The term narcissist gets tossed around so much that its meaning has been lost. Here, Sterlin Mosley explores narcissism as a spectrum disorder and outlines 27 types of narcissism we may encounter, if not display ourselves. Offering tips for managing these tendencies in ourselves and others, this work offers an enlightened path to better empathy