The Gaggle: How to Find Love in the Post-Dating World: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want

Who cares if he's just not that into you? You've got a gaggle. It's easy to feel like your love life is nonexistent. You know you're great, so why haven't you been on a classic dinner-and-a-movie date since . . . well, forever? Because as it turns out, you are now living in a post-dating world, where the old rules for sex and relationships no longer apply. Suddenly, everything and nothing is a date. But this means that you have much more going on in your love life than you realize. Think about all the ambiguous interactions you have with guys: from a brainstorming session with a coworker, to a drink with an old friend, to a late night Skype session with an ex who's still in your life. Once you open your eyes, you'll see that you're already exploring all sorts of connections with the men in your life via these non-dates. And who are all these guys you're non-dating? Say hello to your gaggle. The gaggle is the group of guys in your life who play different roles, fulfill different needs, and help you figure out who you are, what you want, and what kind of relationship you ultimately desire. Though no two gaggles are alike, there are ten types of men a gaggle might include, such as the Ego Booster, the Hot Sex Prospect, and the Boyfriend Prospect. Romance, excitement, self-discovery, love . . . all this will be yours, once you stop stressing about dates, labels, and expectations and start thinking of each man you know and meet as a potential guy in your gaggle. In this clever and groundbreaking debut, based on interviews with women and men across the country, Jessica Massa reveals the ways in which the potential for love is all around you. The Gaggle is the ultimate guide to figuring out what you want— and finding your match—in a world that has left traditional dating behind. Introduction: solving the post-dating crisis : mission impossible? Welcome to the post-dating world So here's my first question? : dating 101: a crash course Ding, dong, dating is dead To date or non-date? Introducing the non-date The group-non-date The e-non-date The friend-non-date The play-non-date The networking-non date The surprise-non date To thine own self be true? : and then let's find some love, shall we? The gaggle inventory Fact : you have a gaggle The ex-boyfriend who's still around The super horny guy who happens to be around a lot The accessory The hot sex prospect The unavailable guy The ego booster The guy who just blew you off The career booster The boyfriend prospect The prospect your not sure is a prospect WTF (where the f-ck) is my gaggle? The guy's gaggle Brace yourself : guys have one, too But first, a public service announcement The girlfriend prospect The work wife The short-term investment The last resort The girl who's out of his league The friend he's just not that into The challenge The crazy girl The (maybe) one The possibility Love in the time of Twitter It's not sexting :it's techno-romance Techno-romance : use it for good! and not for evil! To mom and dad (and the rest of your generation) with so much love : thanks, but no thanks! The relationship of the future The ten commandments of post-dating relationships In conclusion?. Now in paperback, The Gaggle captures the zeitgeist of today's post-dating world where instead of traditionally dating, women find love by cultivating a gaggle of men. AMBIGUOUS TEXTS. SUDDEN BLOWOFFS. CONFUSING HOOKUPS. MIXED SIGNALS. THIS DOESNT HAVE TO BE YOUR LOVE LIFE. IN THIS GROUNDBREAKING DEBUT , based on nationwide interviews with women and men, Jessica Massa leads you through todays post-dating world, where the rules of sex, dating, and relationships have completely changed. The Gaggle is the ultimate guide to finding love in the modern age.

AMBIGUOUS TEXTS.

SUDDEN BLOWOFFS.

CONFUSING HOOKUPS.

MIXED SIGNALS.

THIS DOESN’T HAVE TO BE YOUR LOVE LIFE.

IN THIS GROUNDBREAKING DEBUT, based on nationwide interviews with women and men, Jessica Massa leads you through today’s post-dating world, where the rules of sex, dating, and relationships have completely changed. The Gaggle is the ultimate guide to finding love in the modern age.

A psychologist and creator of the popular blog "WTF Is Up with My Love Life?!" describes modern "non-dating" practices while profiling ten male personality types with whom such activities can be enjoyed in fulfilling ways.