The Courage to Be Disliked : The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

*"The Courage to Be Disliked,* already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of twentieth century psychology, *The Courage to Be Disliked* follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own life, free from the shackles of past experiences, doubts, and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that is deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and other people have placed on us. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefitted from its wisdom. This truly life-changing book will help you declutter your mind of harmful thoughts and attitudes, helping you to make a lasting change, achieve real happiness, and find success"-- *"The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up* for the mind, *The Courage to Be Disliked* is the Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to free yourself from the shackles of past experiences and others' expectations to achieve real happiness"-- Authors’ Note Introduction The First Night: Deny Trauma Chapter 1: The Unknown Third Giant Chapter 2: Why People Can Change Chapter 3: Trauma Does Not Exist Chapter 4: People Fabricate Anger Chapter 5: How to Live Without Being Controlled by the Past Chapter 6: Socrates and Adler Chapter 7: Are You Okay Just As You Are? Chapter 8: Unhappiness Is Something You Choose for Yourself Chapter 9: People Always Choose Not to Change Chapter 10: Your Life Is Decided Here and Now The Second Night: All Problems Are Interpersonal Relationship Problems Chapter 11: Why You Dislike Yourself Chapter 12: All Problems Are Interpersonal Relationship Problems Chapter 13: Feelings of Inferiority Are Subjective Assumptions Chapter 14: An Inferiority Complex Is an Excuse Chapter 15: Braggarts Have Feelings of Inferiority Chapter 16: Life Is Not a Competition Chapter 17: You’re the Only One Worrying About Your Appearance Chapter 18: From Power Struggle to Revenge Chapter 19: Admitting Fault Is Not Defeat Chapter 20: Overcoming the Tasks That Face You in Life Chapter 21: Red String and Rigid Chains Chapter 22: Don’t Fall for the “Life-Lie” Chapter 23: From the Psychology of Possession to the Psychology of Practice The Third Night: Discard Other People’s Tasks Chapter 24: Deny the Desire for Recognition Chapter 25: Do Not Live to Satisfy the Expectations of Others Chapter 26: How to Separate Tasks Chapter 27: Discard Other People’s Tasks Chapter 28: How to Rid Yourself of Interpersonal Relationship Problems Chapter 29: Cut the Gordian Knot Chapter 30: Desire for Recognition Makes You Unfree Chapter 31: What Real Freedom Is Chapter 32: You Hold the Cards to Interpersonal Relationships The Fourth Night: Where the Center of the World Is Chapter 33: Individual Psychology and Holism Chapter 34: The Goal of Interpersonal Relationships Is a Feeling of Community Chapter 35: Why Am I Only Interested In Myself? Chapter 36: You Are Not the Center of the World Chapter 37: Listen to the Voice of a Larger Community Chapter 38: Do Not Rebuke or Praise Chapter 39: The Encouragement Approach Chapter 40: How to Feel You Have Value Chapter 41: Exist in the Present Chapter 42: People Cannot Make Proper Use of Self The Fifth Night: To Live in Earnest in the Here and Now Chapter 43: Excessive Self-Consciousness Stifles the Self Chapter 44: Not Self-Affirmation—Self-Acceptance Chapter 45: The Difference Between Trust and Confidence Chapter 46: The Essence of Work Is a Contribution to the Common Good Chapter 47: Young People Walk Ahead of Adults Chapter 48: Workaholism Is a Life-Lie Chapter 49: You Can Be Happy Now Chapter 50: Two Paths Traveled by Those Wanting to Be “Special Beings” Chapter 51: The Courage to Be Normal Chapter 52: Life Is a Series of Moments Chapter 53: Live Like You’re Dancing Chapter 54: Shine a Light on the Here and Now Chapter 55: The Greatest Life-Lie Chapter 56: Give Meaning to Seemingly Meaningless Life Afterword Reading Group Guide About the Authors Copyright Reading this book could change your life. "Marie Kondo, but for your brain" (HelloGiggles). "Compelling from front to back. Highly recommend" (Marc Andreessen). The Courage to Be Disliked , already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Is happiness something you choose for yourself? The Courage to Be Disliked presents a simple and straightforward answer. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of nineteenth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, this book follows an illuminating dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. Over the course of five conversations, the philosopher helps his student to understand how each of us is able to determine the direction of our own life, free from the shackles of past traumas and the expectations of others. Rich in wisdom, The Courage to Be Disliked will guide you through the concepts of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering. It is a deeply liberating way of thinking, allowing you to develop the courage to change and ignore the limitations that you might be placing on yourself. This plainspoken and profoundly moving book unlocks the power within you to find lasting happiness and be the person you truly want to be. Millions have already benefited from its teachings, now you can too “Marie Kondo, but for your brain.” —HelloGiggles “Compelling from front to back. Highly recommend.” —Marc Andreessen Reading this book could change your life. The Courage to Be Disliked, already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Is happiness something you choose for yourself? The Courage to Be Disliked presents a simple and straightforward answer. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of nineteenth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, this book follows an illuminating dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. Over the course of five conversations, the philosopher helps his student to understand how each of us is able to determine the direction of our own life, free from the shackles of past traumas and the expectations of others. Rich in wisdom, The Courage to Be Disliked will guide you through the concepts of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering. It is a deeply liberating way of thinking, allowing you to develop the courage to change and ignore the limitations that you might be placing on yourself. This plainspoken and profoundly moving book unlocks the power within you to find lasting happiness and be the person you truly want to be. Millions have already benefited from its teachings, now you can too. An international bestseller and TikTok sensation with more than 10 million copies sold worldwide, The Courage to Be Disliked is a transformative and practical guide to personal happiness and self-fulfillment. Now you can unlock your full potential and free yourself from the shackles of past traumas and societal expectations to find true personal happiness. Based on the theories of renowned psychologist Alfred Adler, this book guides you through the principles of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering in a straightforward, easy-to-digest style that's accessible to all. The Courage to Be Disliked unfolds as a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, who, over the course of five enriching conversations, realizes that each of us is in control of our life's direction, independent of past burdens and expectations of others. Wise, empowering, and profoundly liberating, this book is a life-changing experience that shows you a path to lasting happiness and how to finally be the person you truly want to be. Millions are already benefiting from its teachings—and you can be next. "The Courage to Be Disliked, already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of twentieth century psychology, The Courage to Be Disliked follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own life, free from the shackles of past experiences, doubts, and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that is deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and other people have placed on us. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefitted from its wisdom. This truly life-changing book will help you declutter your mind of harmful thoughts and attitudes, helping you to make a lasting change, achieve real happiness, and find success"-- Provided by publisher "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up for the mind, The Courage to Be Disliked is the Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to free yourself from the shackles of past experiences and others' expectations to achieve real happiness"-- Provided by publisher