The Art of Showing Up : How to Be There for Yourself and Your People

A revolutionary guide to friendship and self-care for those who feel alone When it comes to adult friendships, we’re woefully inept: We barely manage to show up for our own commitments, let alone maintain our relationships. What’s more, we’re living in an uncharted social landscape with new conventions on how to relate—one where actual phone calls are reserved for Mom (if anyone), “dropping in” is unheard-of, and “flaking out” is routine. The Art of Showing Up offers a roadmap through this morass to true connection with your friends, your family, and yourself. Author Rachel Wilkerson Miller teaches that “showing up” means connecting with others in a way that makes them feel seen and supported. And that begins with showing up for yourself: recognizing your needs, understanding your physical and mental health, and practicing self-compassion. Only then can you better support other people; witness their joy, pain, and true selves; validate their experiences; and help ease their burden. When “showing up” for others, it’s not the grandest gesture that matters most—it’s how close you come to meeting your loved ones where they really are. Showing up is what turns the people you know into your people. It?s at the core of creating and maintaining strong, meaningful bonds with friends, family, coworkers, and internet pals. Showing up is the act of bearing witness to people?s joy, pain, and true selves; validating their experiences; easing their load; and communicating that they are not alone in this life. If you?re having trouble connecting with those around you, know that you?re not the only one. Adult friendships are tricky!!! Part manifesto, part guide, The Art of Showing Up is soul medicine for our modern, tech-mediated age. Rachel Wilkerson Miller charts a course to kinder, more thoughtful, and more fulfilling relationships?and, crucially, she reminds us that "you can?t show up for others if you aren?t showing up for yourself first." Learn to fearlessly . . . define your needs, reclaim your time, and commit to self-care ask for backup when times are tough?and take action when others are in crisis meet and care for new friends, and gently end toxic friendships help your people feel more seen (and more OK) overall! In an op-ed for The New York Times , David Brooks diagnosed that “bailing is one of the defining acts of the current moment because it stands at the nexus of so many larger trends: the ambiguity of modern social relationships, the fraying of commitments . . . the decline of civilization, the collapse of morality and the ruination of all we hold dear.” The Art of Showing Up is a modern roadmap to true connection—with our family, friends, and ourselves. It teaches kindness, generosity, and thoughtfulness that ultimately lead to a more fulfilling life. Because when it comes to modern friendships, we are woefully inept: We barely manage to show up for our own commitments, let alone maintain decent relationships. And we’re suffering. We’re lonely, burned out, “too busy” to see our friends, and certainly don’t have time to make new ones. We’re living in an all-new social landscape, with unprecedented... A modern roadmap to true connection—first by showing up for yourself and then for others If you’re having trouble connecting with those around you, know that you’re not the only one. Adult friendships are tricky!!! Part manifesto, part guide, The Art of Showing Up is soul medicine for our modern, tech-mediated age. Rachel Wilkerson Miller charts a course to kinder, more thoughtful, and more fulfilling relationships—and, crucially, she reminds us that “you can’t show up for others if you aren’t showing up for yourself first.” Learn to fearlessly . . . define your needs, reclaim your time, and commit to self-care ask for backup when times are tough—and take action when others are in crisis meet and care for new friends, and gently end toxic friendships help your people feel more seen (and more OK) overall! **A revolutionary guide to friendship and self-care for those who feel alone** When it comes to adult friendships, we’re woefully inept: We barely manage to show up for our own commitments, let alone maintain our relationships. What’s more, we’re living in an uncharted social landscape with new conventions on to relate—one where actual phone calls are reserved for Mom (if anyone), “dropping in” is unheard-of, and “flaking out” is routine.__The Art of Showing Up__ __true__ __that__ When “showing up” for others, it’s not the grandest gesture that matters most—it’s how close you come to meeting your loved ones where they really are. We live in an age where you probably have more 'friends' online than in real life. Miller charts a course to kinder, more thoughtful, and more fulfilling relationships. She reminds us that 'you can't show up for others if you aren't showing up for yourself first.' Readers will learn to define their own needs, reclaim their time, and learn to ask for backup. Miller also shows the importance of recognizing-- and gently ending-- toxic friendships -- adapted from back cover "How to form and maintain genuine friendships in an age of social disconnect"-- Provided by publisher