Taming Your Outer Child : Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Healing From Abandonment

Take Control of Your Life Chances are, you've already had run-ins with your Outer Child — the self-sabotaging, bungling, and impulsive part of your personality. This misguided, hidden nemesis blows your diet, overspends, and ruins your love life. Your Outer Child acts out and fulfills your legitimate childlike needs and wants in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and in counterproductive ways: It goes for immediate gratification and the quick fix in spite of your best-laid plans. Now, in a revolutionary rethinking of the link between emotion and behavior, veteran psychotherapist Susan Anderson offers a three-step program to tame your Outer Child's destructive behavior. This dynamic, transformational set of strategies — action steps that act like physical therapy for the brain — calms your Inner Child, strengthens your Adult Self, releases you from the self-blame and shame at the root of Outer Child issues, and paves new neural pathways that can lead to more productive behavior. The result is happiness, fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-love.

finally, The Breakthrough Book That Puts You Back In Control Of Your Life
 
Most Of Us Have Met Our Outer Child Once Too Often. The Self-sabotaging, Bungling, And Impulsive Part Of The Personality. This Misguided, Hidden Nemesis—the Devil On Your Shoulder—blows Your Diet, Overspends, And Ruins Your Love Life. A Menacing Older Sibling To Your Emotionally Needy Inner Child, Your Outer Child Acts Out And Fulfills Your Legitimate Childlike Needs And Wants In The Wrong Place, At The Wrong Time, And In Counterproductive Ways: It Goes For Immediate Gratification And The Quick Fix In Spite Of Your Best-laid Plans. Food, Attention, Emotional Release—your Outer Child Usually Gets What It Wants, And Your Adult Self Can Feel Powerless To Stop It.

now, In A Revolutionary Rethinking Of The Link Between Emotion And Behavior, Veteran Psychotherapist And Theoretician Susan Anderson Offers A Three-step, Paradigm-shifting Program To Tame Your Outer Child’s Destructive Behavior. This Dynamic, Transformational Set Of Strategies—action Steps That Act Like Physical Therapy For The Brain—calms Your Inner Child, Strengthens Your Adult Self And Releases You From The Self-blame And Shame That Are The Root Of Outer Child Issues, And Paves New Neural Pathways That Can Lead To More Productive Behavior. Discover

• The Common Outer Child Personality Types, Including The Drama Queen; The Master Of Disguise; My Way Or No Way; And Love The Getting, Not The Having
• Proven Techniques To Resolve Underlying Sources Of Self-sabotage
• Insights That Will Allow You To Stop Blaming Your Supposed “lack Of Willpower” For Your Problems
• Key Strategies For Healing The Painful Issues Of Your Past
• Mental Exercises That Effectively Deal With Outer Child Challenges Around Food, Procrastination, Love, Debt, Depression, And More
 
As Your Head, Heart, And Behavior Come Together And Learn To Help, Not Hurt, One Another, Your Strong Adult Self, Contented Inner Child, And Tamed Outer Child Will Become A Reality. The Result Is Happiness And Fulfillment, Self-mastery, And Self-love.

publishers Weekly

with More Than 30 Years Experience Working With Victims Of Trauma, Abandonment, Grief, And Loss, Psychotherapist Anderson (black Swan: The Twelve Lessons Of Abandonment Recovery) Continues Her Private Practice In Manhattan And On Long Island. A Decade Ago, She Introduced Her Outer Child Concept, Which, As She Defines It, Is An Outward Manifestation Of Your Emotional Self. Since Fear Of Abandonment Is The Crux Of The Human Condition, She Explains How To Redirect Fear And Insecurity Seeping Out Of Your Oldest Wounds. Abandoholism, She Notes, Wins The Hit Parade On My Website. With A Program Designed To Undo Primal Fears, She Tackles Such Topics As Lowered Self-esteem, Lovesick Feelings, Food Urges, Diet, Chronic Depression, Procrastination, Heartache, And A Primary Source Of Conflict With Relationships, Enormous Emotional Suction Cups. She Also Examines Brain Activity And Factors Preventing The Body's Production Of Such Yummy Neurochemicals As Oxytocin And Vasopressin. While Readers Under Stress Who Are Desperate For Help Will View This Book As A Valuable Tool For Healing, Others May Be Put Off By Some Of The Jargon-filled Passages. (jan. 25)

"Susan Anderson identified the Outer Child in her trailblazing The Journey from Abandonment to Healing. Because her readers and counseling clients so resonated with this breakthrough concept, Anderson developed these tools, practices that allow readers to move beyond awareness of their issues (where many get stuck) and into change. Like physical therapy for the brain, her techniques comfort the scared Inner Child, calm the impulsive Outer child, and cultivate a wise Adult. As these behaviors are repeated, new neural pathways are established. The integrated Adult, Inner Child, and Outer Child can now work together to realize goals. Specifically addressing issues such as procrastination, depression, and anxiety, Anderson helps readers pause their patterns long enough to blaze healthier, happier trails"-- Provided by publisher Welcome to your outer child Three parts of the personality Exposing your outer child Outer child and your abandonment issues Outer child and your self-esteem Outer child and your future Outer child and your past Outer child, your stress and trauma Outer child and diet Outer child and procrastination Outer child and love relationships Outer child and losing passion Outer child and feeling unloved Outer child and debt Outer child and depression Living a conscious life. ""From the founder of the abandonment recovery movement, a three-step program for stopping self-defeating behaviors, such as overeating, procrastination, accumulating debt, and creating relationship dysfunction. While the 'inner child' carries unresolved childhood issues, the 'outer child' acts them out, and both 'children' can be healed by cultivating an inner 'wise adult.'"--Provided by publisher"-- Provided by publisher Meet your Outer Child: the self-sabotaging, bungling, and impulsive part of your personality. Anderson offers a three-step, paradigm-shifting program to tame your Outer Child's destructive behavior, and pave new neural pathways that can lead to more productive behavior.