Talking from 9 to 5 : how women's and men's conversational styles affect who gets heard, who gets credit, and what gets done at work

This groundbreaking book does for the workplace what Tannen's international bestseller You Just Don't Understand did for private conversations. It shows how women's and men's ways of speaking affect who gets heard, who gets credit, who gets ahead, and what gets done in the workplace.Why are women often seen as less confident and competent than they really are? Why are men often labeled arrogant? Why do so many women find that they say something at a meeting only to have it ignored, then a man says the same thing and it's embraced as a great idea — his idea!Women often find themselves in a double bind. If they talk in ways expected of women, they are liked but underestimated. If they talk in ways expected of men in the same position, they are seen as too aggressive.Women in managerial positions have embraced this book as an account and an explanation of their own experiences and a guide to making changes. The book is indispensable for everyone who seeks to understand what's going on around them at work, to improve productivity, and to retain talented employees. "You say something at a meeting, it is ignored, then someone else says the same thing and everyone embraces it as a marvelous idea. You devote yourself to a project, but don't get credit for the results. You work around the clock to avoid a crisis, but your efforts are not recognized because no one notices a crisis that never occurs. You give what you think are clear instructions, but the job is not done, or is done wrong. Sometimes it seems you are not getting heard, not getting credit for your efforts, not getting ahead as fast as you should." "Many of us spend more of our lives at work than we do at home, yet while we choose our life-partners and friends, at work we are thrown together with people we did not choose, some of whom we don't understand and may not even like." "In Talking from 9 to 5, Deborah Tannen brings to the workplace the same compelling voice, keen eye, and deep insight that made That's Not What I Meant! and You Just Don't Understand best-selling classics. Here, she offers powerful new ways of understanding what happens in the workplace, ranging from the simplest exchanges to the complex contemporary issues of the glass ceiling and sexual harassment." "Work is a special world because as we talk to get our jobs done, we are also being evaluated. How we get others to do what we want, and how we accept or avoid responsibility for mistakes, display or challenge authority, reveal or conceal what we don't know - all affect how we are regarded and rewarded." "Individuals in positions of authority are judged by how they enact that authority. This poses a particular challenge for women, since the ways that women are expected to talk are at odds with our usual images of authority. Women at work often have ways of creating authority that can be misinterpreted as a lack of confidence or even competence." "Tannen maintains that no one style of speaking is superior. She does not tell women to speak like men or men to speak like women. Instead, she explains a variety of styles with real-life examples and urges everyone to be aware of and to learn from other conversational styles and to develop flexibility." "Talking from 9 to 5 will have a dramatic impact on those who are struggling with co-workers, jobs, and companies - and will help individuals as well as companies thrive in a working world made up of increasingly diverse work forces and ever more competitive markets."--Jacket

Your project went off without a hitch—but somebody else got the credit...You averted a crisis brilliantly—but no one noticed...You came to the meeting with a sensational idea—but it was ignored until someone else said the same thing...

HOW CAN YOU GET CREDIT & GET AHEAD?

In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don't Understand, Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men. Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplace—where the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done.

An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains women's and men's conversational rituals—and the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world. It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticed—an essential tool for promoting more positive and productive professional relationships among men and women.

The bestselling author of You Just Don't Understand and That's Not What I Meant enters the realm of the workplace and shows readers how they are too often foreigners to each other. Tannen maintains that there is no one style of speaking that is superior in all situations, fully recognizing that differences in gender, ethnicity, geography, class, and personality effect communication in the workplace.

“Required reading...sharp and insightful...lively and straightforward...a novel and sometimes startling analysis of workplace dynamics.”—New York Times Book ReviewIn her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don't Understand, Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men. Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplace—where the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done. An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains women's and men's conversational rituals—and the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world. It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticed—an essential tool for promoting more positive and productive professional relationships among men and women. Required readingsharp and insightfullively and straightforwarda novel and sometimes startling analysis of workplace dynamics.New York Times Book Review In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Dont Understand , Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men. Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplacewhere the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done. An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains womens and mens conversational ritualsand the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world. It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticedan essential tool for promoting more positive and productive professional relationships among men and women. An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains women's and men's conversational rituals--and the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world. It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticed--an essential tool for promoting more positive and productive professional relationships among men and women. In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don't Understand, Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men. Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplace--where the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done. -- Back cover Amy was a manager with a problem: She had just read a final report written by Donald, and she felt it was woefully inadequate.