Speak Peace in a World of Conflict : What You Say Next Will Change Your World

In every interaction, every conversation and in every thought, you have a choice – to promote peace or perpetuate violence. International peacemaker, mediator and healer, Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg shows you how the language you use is the key to enriching life. Take the first step to reduce violence, heal pain, resolve conflicts and spread peace on our planet – by developing an internal consciousness of peace rooted in the language you use each day. Speak Peace is filled with inspiring stories, lessons and ideas drawn from over 40 years of mediating conflicts and healing relationships in some of the most war torn, impoverished, and violent corners of the world. Speak Peace offers insight, practical skills, and powerful tools that will profoundly change your relationships and the course of your life for the better. Bestselling author of the internationally acclaimed, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life Discover how you can create an internal consciousness of peace as the first step toward effective personal, professional, and social change. Find complete chapters on the mechanics of Nonviolent Communication, effective conflict resolution, transforming business culture, transforming enemy images, addressing terrorism, transforming authoritarian structures, expressing and receiving gratitude, and social change. Speak Peace is filled with inspiring stories, lessons and ideas drawn from over 40 years of mediating conflicts and healing relationships in some of the most war torn, impoverished, and violent corners of the world. Speak Peace offers insight, practical skills, and powerful tools that will profoundly change your relationships and the course of your life for the better. Bestselling author of the internationally acclaimed, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life Discover how you can create an internal consciousness of peace as the first step toward effective personal, professional, and social change. Find complete chapters on the mechanics of Nonviolent Communication, effective conflict resolution, transforming business culture, transforming enemy images, addressing terrorism, transforming authoritarian structures, expressing and receiving gratitude, and social change. Table of Contents......Page 8 Acknowledgments......Page 12 Foreword—Dorothy J. Maver, Ph.D.......Page 14 Foreword—David Hart......Page 16 INTRODUCTION......Page 20 Origins of Nonviolent Communication......Page 23 Purpose of NVC......Page 26 CHAPTER 1 The Two Questions......Page 34 Observations......Page 38 Feelings......Page 43 Needs......Page 48 Requests......Page 52 Requests versus Demands......Page 58 Growth through Self-Education......Page 70 Self-Empathy for Our ‘Mistakes'......Page 77 Healing Old Hurts—Mourning versus Apology......Page 82 CHAPTER 5 Connecting with Others Empathically......Page 88 Responding to the Messages of Others......Page 90 CHAPTER 6 Seeing the Beauty in Others......Page 98 CHAPTER 7 What Do You Want to Change?......Page 106 How We Got Where We Are......Page 116 Creating Change in Our Schools......Page 120 Working with Gangs in Ghettos......Page 124 Changing Other Social Institutions......Page 126 CHAPTER 9 Transforming Enemy Images and Connecting......Page 128 Mediating Between Warring Tribes......Page 132 Addressing Terrorism......Page 137 CHAPTER 10 Joining Forces with Others to Create Social Change......Page 144 Funding for Social Change......Page 152 CHAPTER 11 Dealing with Conflict and Confrontation......Page 158 Seeing the Human Being across the Table......Page 161 Transforming Conflict in Business......Page 165 Transforming Business Culture......Page 168 When People Won’t Meet......Page 171 CHAPTER 12 Gratitude......Page 172 Praise and Compliments as Damaging Judgments......Page 175 Expressing Gratitude with NVC......Page 177 How to Receive Gratitude......Page 180 CHAPTER 13 Summary/Final Thoughts......Page 182 Bibliography......Page 186 Index......Page 188 Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have......Page 198 How You Can Use the NVC Process......Page 199 About CNVC and NVC......Page 200 About PuddleDancer Press......Page 202 Trade Books from PuddleDancer Press......Page 203 Trade Booklets from PuddleDancer Press......Page 207 NVC Materials Available from CNVC......Page 208 About the Author......Page 209 Table of Contents 8 Acknowledgments 12 Foreword—Dorothy J. Maver, Ph.D. 14 Foreword—David Hart 16 INTRODUCTION 20 Origins of Nonviolent Communication 23 Purpose of NVC 26 CHAPTER 1 The Two Questions 34 CHAPTER 2 How Can We Express What’s Alive in Us? 38 Observations 38 Feelings 43 Needs 48 CHAPTER 3 How Can We Make Life More Wonderful? 52 Requests 52 Requests versus Demands 58 CHAPTER 4 Change within Ourselves 70 Growth through Self-Education 70 Self-Empathy for Our ‘Mistakes' 77 Healing Old Hurts—Mourning versus Apology 82 CHAPTER 5 Connecting with Others Empathically 88 Responding to the Messages of Others 90 CHAPTER 6 Seeing the Beauty in Others 98 CHAPTER 7 What Do You Want to Change? 106 CHAPTER 8 Gangs and Other Domination Structures 116 How We Got Where We Are 116 Creating Change in Our Schools 120 Working with Gangs in Ghettos 124 Changing Other Social Institutions 126 CHAPTER 9 Transforming Enemy Images and Connecting 128 Mediating Between Warring Tribes 132 Addressing Terrorism 137 CHAPTER 10 Joining Forces with Others to Create Social Change 144 Funding for Social Change 152 CHAPTER 11 Dealing with Conflict and Confrontation 158 Seeing the Human Being across the Table 161 Transforming Conflict in Business 165 Transforming Business Culture 168 When People Won’t Meet 171 CHAPTER 12 Gratitude 172 Praise and Compliments as Damaging Judgments 175 Expressing Gratitude with NVC 177 How to Receive Gratitude 180 CHAPTER 13 Summary/Final Thoughts 182 Bibliography 186 Index 188 Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have 198 How You Can Use the NVC Process 199 About CNVC and NVC 200 About PuddleDancer Press 202 Trade Books from PuddleDancer Press 203 Trade Booklets from PuddleDancer Press 207 NVC Materials Available from CNVC 208 About the Author 209

In every interaction, every conversation and in every thought, you have a choice – to promote peace or perpetuate violence. International peacemaker, mediator and healer, Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg shows you how the language you use is the key to enriching life. Take the first step to reduce violence, heal pain, resolve conflicts and spread peace on our planet – by developing an internal consciousness of peace rooted in the language you use each day.

Speak Peace is filled with inspiring stories, lessons and ideas drawn from over 40 years of mediating conflicts and healing relationships in some of the most war torn, impoverished, and violent corners of the world. Speak Peace offers insight, practical skills, and powerful tools that will profoundly change your relationships and the course of your life for the better.

Bestselling author of the internationally acclaimed, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Discover how you can create an internal consciousness of peace as the first step toward effective personal, professional, and social change. Find complete chapters on the mechanics of Nonviolent Communication, effective conflict resolution, transforming business culture, transforming enemy images, addressing terrorism, transforming authoritarian structures, expressing and receiving gratitude, and social change.

"No matter where you may be on your path to living peace, I recommend it to you."--The Light Connection Words have the power to create profound healing--or incredible suffering--and yet even with the best intentions it can be difficult to build harmony and trust through speech. This pioneering text presents a four-part model for immediately connecting words with peace and well-being in relationships. Applying the principles of Nonviolent Communication to conversation, the book seeks to answer the two central questions of How can we express what's alive in us? and How can we make life more won Presenting a four-part model for immediately connecting words with peace and well-being in relationships, this text discusses the use of natural empathy to ease stressful situations and avoid dehumanizing communication patterns. It teaches users that it is possible to meet their needs and the needs of others in a compassionate manner. Dr. Rosenberg reveals how to take the first step to reduce violence, heal pain, resolve conflicts and spread peace on our planet, by developing an internal consciousness of peace rooted in the language one uses each day