Sleep Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler and Preschooler: The Ultimate No-Worry Approach for Each Age and Stage (Mother of all Solutions)

Finally, a no-worry, no-guilt guide to sleep. There's no such thing as a one-size-fits-all sleep solution. That's why Sleep Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler provides you with the tools you need to come up with a customized sleep solution that takes into account your child's temperament, your parenting philosophies, and the rest of your life. You'll also get the lowdown on: the physical, emotional and relationship fallout of sleep deprivation — along with an action plan for minimizing these effects what the world's leading sleep researchers have identified as the best-odds sleep promotion strategies for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers the science behind each of the major sleep training methods — along with the inside scoop on the major pros and cons, according to parents who've tried them co-sleeping, partners in exile (in the spare bedroom), and other hot-button topics in the world of sleep sleep transitions: from co-sleeping to solo sleeping; from crib to bed; from napping to no more naps nightmares, night terrors, bedtime refusal, and too-early risers Includes checklists, charts, and sleep tools, including a handy sleep log sleep books, websites, and organizations that every parent should know about Title 4 Copyright 5 Table of Contents 11 Introduction 17 CHAPTER 1 Sleepless in Suburbia 26 Why the Sleep Deprivation of Early Parenthood Comes as Such a Shock 27 Society Doesn’t Do a Particularly Good Job of Preparing New Parents 27 Learning about Sleep Might Not Have Seemed That Important While You Were Pregnant 28 Falling on Deaf Ears 28 Unexplainable Degrees of Exhaustion 29 The Mother of All Sleep Debts 30 Pregnancy Sleep Debt 30 New Mom Sleep Debt 31 More Sleep Debt: Toddler and Preschool Years 33 Why Sleep Is Such a Huge Issue for So Many Parents 34 You Never Know When Your Sleep Is Going to Be Disrupted Next 34 You Get Conflicting Advice from the Experts 35 And a Lot of Unsolicited Advice, Period 36 Your Child’s Sleep Problems Can Take a Toll on Your Parenting Self-Esteem 37 How Sleep Deprivation Makes Parenting Harder 38 Your Brain Starts to Feel Foggy and Sluggish 39 Your Communication Skills Plummet 40 Your Problem-Solving Skills and Your Creativity Begin to Nosedive 40 You May Feel Impatient and Edgy 41 You Feel Zapped of Your Usual Energy and Drive 41 You May Experience Insomnia 41 You May Start to Experience Some of the Physical Symptoms Associated with Sleep Deprivation 43 You May Experience Some of the Emotional Symptoms Associated with Sleep Deprivation 44 You Are at Increased Risk of Developing Postpartum Depression 45 Desperate Parents 46 The Sleep Deprivation Gender Gap 47 Play to One Another’s Strengths 48 Ask for What You Need 49 Accept That Moms Tend to Be More Tuned into Their Babies’ Cries in the Night 50 Accept the Fact That Sometimes Only Mom Will Do 50 Realize That Fair Doesn’t Have to Mean 50/50 52 Strangers in the Night 53 Sleep Is the New Sex 54 Solutions Central—The Last Word 56 CHAPTER 2 The Sleep-Deprivation Survival Guide 57 Eyes Wide Shut: Maximizing Your Opportunities for Sleep 58 “Sleep When the Baby Sleeps” 58 Call for Backup 59 Make Some Strategic Sleep Moves 63 Set the Stage for Sleep 68 Practise Good “Sleep Hygiene” 72 Develop a Relaxing Pre-bedtime Routine 78 Boosting Your Energy through Nutrition and Fitness 79 Eat for Energy 79 Exercise for Energy 81 The Secrets of Sleep-Savvy Moms: Ways to Make Sleep Deprivation Less Crazy-Making 82 Solutions Central—The Last Word 83 CHAPTER 3 The Science of Sleep 84 What Sleeping Like a Baby Really Means 85 Sleep-Related Milestones 86 Your Newborn 88 Your One-Month-Old 94 Your Two- to Six-Month-Old 95 Your Six- to Nine-Month-Old 95 Your Nine- to 12-Month Old 97 Your Toddler (Ages One and Two Years) 99 Your Preschooler (Ages Three and Four Years) 99 Solutions Central—The Last Word 101 CHAPTER 4 Winning at Sleep Roulette 102 Eight Best Sleep Strategies: What Every Parent Needs to Know 103 1. Learn to Spot Your Child’s Sleep Cues 104 Baby Sleep Cues 104 Toddler and Preschooler Sleep Cues 107 From Tired to Overtired 107 2. Teach Your Baby to Distinguish between Night and Day 108 3. Establish a Consistent, Predictable Bedtime Routine during the Early Months of Your Baby’s Life, and Allow This Routine to Evolve as Your Child Moves from Stage to Stage 110 4. Let Your Baby Practise Falling Asleep on His Own So That He Can Learn How to Soothe Himself Back to Sleep 117 Practising Your Baby’s Self-Soothing Skills 121 5. Learn How to Understand the Noises Your Baby Makes in His Sleep 123 6. Make Daytime Sleep a Priority: Children Who Nap Sleep Better at Nighttime 125 7. Recognize When Your Baby No Longer Needs to Be Fed in the Night and Start Using Non-food Methods to Soothe Your Baby Back to Sleep 126 8. Remain as Calm and Relaxed as Possible about the Sleep Issue 126 Sleep Survey Says 127 How Temperament Affects Sleep 127 Sleep Researchers: Meet the Parents! 128 Who’s Calling Who Temperamental? 129 Sleep Training: The Mother of All Hot Topics 137 Why It May Be Difficult to Talk Sleep with Even Your Very Best Mom Friends 138 The Expert’s Not the Boss of You 139 Sleep Nirvana: You Can Get There from Here! 142 The Sleep Plans of Which Dreams Are Made 143 The Big (Sleep) Talk: Discussing Sleep Issues with Your Partner 144 If Plan A Fails 149 Solutions Central—The Last Word 151 CHAPTER 5 Bedroom Politics: Where Will Your Baby Sleep? 152 SIDS: Some Basic Facts 153 The Bedrooms of the Nation 153 Making Bed Sharing a Safer Option: Some Unofficial Tips and Suggestions 156 Safe Sleep Strategies: What Every Parent Needs to Know 159 Other Tips on Providing Your Baby with a Safe Sleeping Environment 169 Location, Location, Location 170 Solutions Central—The Last Word 174 CHAPTER 6 The Real-World Guide to Solving Your Baby’s Sleep Problems 175 Hush, Little Baby 176 Back to Sleep 176 Nap Know-how 188 Bedtime Problems 190 Night Waking 192 Early Birds (a.k.a. Larks) 193 Feeding to Sleep 194 Baby’s Not Sleeping through the Night Anymore 198 Changing Spaces 200 Sleep Disruptions 202 Have Baby, Will Travel 205 Seeing Double 206 Solutions Central—The Last Word 207 CHAPTER 7 The Real-World Guide to Solving Your Toddler’s Sleep Problems 209 The Truth about Toddlers and Sleep 210 Bedtime Basics 212 Night Patrol 219 Little Ms. Early Bird 223 Naptime Know-how 226 Pacifier Partings 230 Musical Beds 231 Solutions Central—The Last Word 235 CHAPTER 8 The Real-World Guide to Solving Your Preschooler’s Sleep Problems 236 Desperately Seeking Sleep Solutions 237 Routines Revisited 238 The Relaxation Express: The Top Relaxation Techniques for Preschoolers 241 Bedtime Fears 245 Nightmares vs. Night Terrors 247 Thunderstorms 248 Sibling Sleep Deprivation 249 Help Me Make It through the Night 249 Little Miss Sleepyhead 252 Preschooler Naps: The Endangered Species List 253 Solutions Central—The Last Word 253 CHAPTER 9 Sleep Disorders: What Every Parent Needs to Know 257 The Worried Parent’s Rest-Easy Guide to Sleep Disorders 257 Solutions Central—The Last Word 272 Sleep Tools 273 Sleep Tool 1: Sleep Problem Solver—A Six-Step Action Plan for Solving Your Child’s Sleep Problems 273 Sleep Tool 2: A Comparison of the Major Sleep-Training Methods for Babies, Toddlers, and Preschoolers 277 Sleep Tool 3: Bedtime-Resistance Checklist: Common Reasons for Bedtime Resistance in Toddlers and Preschoolers 285 Sleep Tool 4: Reasons Why Babies, Toddlers, and Preschoolers Wake in the Night 288 Sleep Tool 5: 7-Day Sleep Log 296 APPENDICES 298 Appendix A: Directory of Organizations 298 Sleep Associations: General 298 Sleep Organizations: Sleep Disorders 299 Sleep Safety and Juvenile Safety Standards Organizations 299 Juvenile Product and Sleep Product Manufacturers Associations 300 Major Pediatric Health Associations 300 Appendix B: Directory of On-line Resources 301 Sleep: Reference Guide 301 Sleep Research and Sleep 302 Sleep Problems and Disorders 302 Sleep Health and Safety 303 Moms’ Sleep 304 Postpartum Support and Sleep Solutions 304 Mother Fuel 305 General Pediatric Health and Development Information 305 Useful Sleep-Related Product Information 305 Appendix C: Recommended Reading 306 Index 309 A 309 B 309 C 310 D 311 E 311 F 312 G 312 H 312 I 313 L 313 M 313 N 314 O 315 P 315 Q 316 R 316 S 317 T 319 V 320 W 320 Title......Page 4 Copyright......Page 5 Table of Contents......Page 11 Introduction......Page 17 CHAPTER 1 Sleepless in Suburbia......Page 26 Society Doesn’t Do a Particularly Good Job of Preparing New Parents......Page 27 Falling on Deaf Ears......Page 28 Unexplainable Degrees of Exhaustion......Page 29 Pregnancy Sleep Debt......Page 30 New Mom Sleep Debt......Page 31 More Sleep Debt: Toddler and Preschool Years......Page 33 You Never Know When Your Sleep Is Going to Be Disrupted Next......Page 34 You Get Conflicting Advice from the Experts......Page 35 And a Lot of Unsolicited Advice, Period......Page 36 Your Child’s Sleep Problems Can Take a Toll on Your Parenting Self-Esteem......Page 37 How Sleep Deprivation Makes Parenting Harder......Page 38 Your Brain Starts to Feel Foggy and Sluggish......Page 39 Your Problem-Solving Skills and Your Creativity Begin to Nosedive......Page 40 You May Experience Insomnia......Page 41 You May Start to Experience Some of the Physical Symptoms Associated with Sleep Deprivation......Page 43 You May Experience Some of the Emotional Symptoms Associated with Sleep Deprivation......Page 44 You Are at Increased Risk of Developing Postpartum Depression......Page 45 Desperate Parents......Page 46 The Sleep Deprivation Gender Gap......Page 47 Play to One Another’s Strengths......Page 48 Ask for What You Need......Page 49 Accept the Fact That Sometimes Only Mom Will Do......Page 50 Realize That Fair Doesn’t Have to Mean 50/50......Page 52 Strangers in the Night......Page 53 Sleep Is the New Sex......Page 54 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 56 CHAPTER 2 The Sleep-Deprivation Survival Guide......Page 57 “Sleep When the Baby Sleeps”......Page 58 Call for Backup......Page 59 Make Some Strategic Sleep Moves......Page 63 Set the Stage for Sleep......Page 68 Practise Good “Sleep Hygiene”......Page 72 Develop a Relaxing Pre-bedtime Routine......Page 78 Eat for Energy......Page 79 Exercise for Energy......Page 81 The Secrets of Sleep-Savvy Moms: Ways to Make Sleep Deprivation Less Crazy-Making......Page 82 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 83 CHAPTER 3 The Science of Sleep......Page 84 What Sleeping Like a Baby Really Means......Page 85 Sleep-Related Milestones......Page 86 Your Newborn......Page 88 Your One-Month-Old......Page 94 Your Six- to Nine-Month-Old......Page 95 Your Nine- to 12-Month Old......Page 97 Your Preschooler (Ages Three and Four Years)......Page 99 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 101 CHAPTER 4 Winning at Sleep Roulette......Page 102 Eight Best Sleep Strategies: What Every Parent Needs to Know......Page 103 Baby Sleep Cues......Page 104 From Tired to Overtired......Page 107 2. Teach Your Baby to Distinguish between Night and Day......Page 108 3. Establish a Consistent, Predictable Bedtime Routine during the Early Months of Your Baby’s Life, and Allow This Routine to Evolve as Your Child Moves from Stage to Stage......Page 110 4. Let Your Baby Practise Falling Asleep on His Own So That He Can Learn How to Soothe Himself Back to Sleep......Page 117 Practising Your Baby’s Self-Soothing Skills......Page 121 5. Learn How to Understand the Noises Your Baby Makes in His Sleep......Page 123 6. Make Daytime Sleep a Priority: Children Who Nap Sleep Better at Nighttime......Page 125 8. Remain as Calm and Relaxed as Possible about the Sleep Issue......Page 126 How Temperament Affects Sleep......Page 127 Sleep Researchers: Meet the Parents!......Page 128 Who’s Calling Who Temperamental?......Page 129 Sleep Training: The Mother of All Hot Topics......Page 137 Why It May Be Difficult to Talk Sleep with Even Your Very Best Mom Friends......Page 138 The Expert’s Not the Boss of You......Page 139 Sleep Nirvana: You Can Get There from Here!......Page 142 The Sleep Plans of Which Dreams Are Made......Page 143 The Big (Sleep) Talk: Discussing Sleep Issues with Your Partner......Page 144 If Plan A Fails......Page 149 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 151 CHAPTER 5 Bedroom Politics: Where Will Your Baby Sleep?......Page 152 The Bedrooms of the Nation......Page 153 Making Bed Sharing a Safer Option: Some Unofficial Tips and Suggestions......Page 156 Safe Sleep Strategies: What Every Parent Needs to Know......Page 159 Other Tips on Providing Your Baby with a Safe Sleeping Environment......Page 169 Location, Location, Location......Page 170 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 174 CHAPTER 6 The Real-World Guide to Solving Your Baby’s Sleep Problems......Page 175 Back to Sleep......Page 176 Nap Know-how......Page 188 Bedtime Problems......Page 190 Night Waking......Page 192 Early Birds (a.k.a. Larks)......Page 193 Feeding to Sleep......Page 194 Baby’s Not Sleeping through the Night Anymore......Page 198 Changing Spaces......Page 200 Sleep Disruptions......Page 202 Have Baby, Will Travel......Page 205 Seeing Double......Page 206 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 207 CHAPTER 7 The Real-World Guide to Solving Your Toddler’s Sleep Problems......Page 209 The Truth about Toddlers and Sleep......Page 210 Bedtime Basics......Page 212 Night Patrol......Page 219 Little Ms. Early Bird......Page 223 Naptime Know-how......Page 226 Pacifier Partings......Page 230 Musical Beds......Page 231 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 235 CHAPTER 8 The Real-World Guide to Solving Your Preschooler’s Sleep Problems......Page 236 Desperately Seeking Sleep Solutions......Page 237 Routines Revisited......Page 238 The Relaxation Express: The Top Relaxation Techniques for Preschoolers......Page 241 Bedtime Fears......Page 245 Nightmares vs. Night Terrors......Page 247 Thunderstorms......Page 248 Help Me Make It through the Night......Page 249 Little Miss Sleepyhead......Page 252 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 253 The Worried Parent’s Rest-Easy Guide to Sleep Disorders......Page 257 Solutions Central—The Last Word......Page 272 Sleep Tool 1: Sleep Problem Solver—A Six-Step Action Plan for Solving Your Child’s Sleep Problems......Page 273 Sleep Tool 2: A Comparison of the Major Sleep-Training Methods for Babies, Toddlers, and Preschoolers......Page 277 Sleep Tool 3: Bedtime-Resistance Checklist: Common Reasons for Bedtime Resistance in Toddlers and Preschoolers......Page 285 Sleep Tool 4: Reasons Why Babies, Toddlers, and Preschoolers Wake in the Night......Page 288 Sleep Tool 5: 7-Day Sleep Log......Page 296 Sleep Associations: General......Page 298 Sleep Safety and Juvenile Safety Standards Organizations......Page 299 Major Pediatric Health Associations......Page 300 Sleep: Reference Guide......Page 301 Sleep Problems and Disorders......Page 302 Sleep Health and Safety......Page 303 Postpartum Support and Sleep Solutions......Page 304 Useful Sleep-Related Product Information......Page 305 Appendix C: Recommended Reading......Page 306 B......Page 309 C......Page 310 E......Page 311 H......Page 312 M......Page 313 N......Page 314 P......Page 315 R......Page 316 S......Page 317 T......Page 319 W......Page 320

Finally, a no-worry, no-guilt guide to sleep. There’s no such thing as a one-size-fits-all sleep solution. That’s why Sleep Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler provides you with the tools you need to come up with a customized sleep solution that takes into account your child’s temperament, your parenting philosophies, and the rest of your life. You’ll also get the lowdown on

• the physical, emotional and relationship fallout of sleep deprivation—along with an action plan for minimizing these effects

• what the world’s leading sleep researchers have identified as the best-odds sleep promotion strategies for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers

• the science behind each of the major sleep training methods—along with the inside scoop on the major pros and cons, according to parents who’ve tried them

• co-sleeping, partners in exile (in the spare bedroom), and other hot-button topics in the world of sleep

• sleep transitions: from co-sleeping to solo sleeping; from crib to bed; from napping to no more naps

• nightmares, night terrors, bedtime refusal, and too-early risers

  
  
  

Includes

• checklists, charts, and sleep tools, including a handy sleep log

• sleep books, websites, and organizations that every parent should know about

  
  
  

Finally, a no-worry, no-guilt guide to sleep. There's no such thing as a one-size-fits-all sleep solution. That's why Sleep Solutions for Your Baby, Toddler, and Preschooler provides you with the tools you need to come up with a customized sleep solution that takes into account your child's temperament, your parenting philosophies, and the rest of your life. You'll also get the lowdown on: the physical, emotional and relationship fallout of sleep deprivation -- along with an action plan for minimizing these effects what the world's leading sleep researchers have identified as the best-odds sleep promotion strategies for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers the science behind each of the major sleep training methods -- along with the inside scoop on the major pros and cons, according to parents who've tried them co-sleeping, partners in exile (in the spare bedroom), and other hot-button topics in the world of sleep sleep transitions: from co-sleeping to solo sleeping; from crib to bed; from napping to no more naps nightmares, night terrors, bedtime refusal, and too-early risers Includes checklists, charts, and sleep tools, including a handy sleep log sleep books, websites, and organizations that every parent should know about The EPUB format of this title may not be compatible for use on all handheld devices.