She's Not the Man I Married : My Life with a Transgender Husband

pt. 1. Beginning -- Raw power -- pt. 2. Before testosterone -- Get more cigarettes -- Adolescent sphinx -- Dresses, wrestling, and Barbies -- Kamikaze night walking -- Crime, poetry, dungeons, and psychic forces -- Fun house -- Theater of fate -- First sign -- Psychiatrist's tabloid tales--feminist paranoia -- Manhattan July -- Imagination and body -- Cautionary tales -- The hormones really work -- Epiphanies -- Beards, housewives, and ex-lesbian separatists -- Birthday party -- Getting my name -- Binding -- Patriarchal underwear cannibals -- pt. 3. After testosterone -- Blood rites -- Saying goodbye -- The incredible hulk -- Hunger -- Shaving -- Breaking the news -- Sex for sale -- In the grip of the goddess -- Urine, scents, and bathrooms -- Authority -- Saint Priapus -- Venus of data entry -- Man with breasts -- Normal guy -- Cock in my pocket -- Juliet -- Twilight zone -- Weird, weird world -- Sex wars -- "It's a great gimmick" -- Predator -- Stripper -- Commitment -- Territory -- Initiation -- Testosterone, energy, and aggression -- Further initiations -- Cold dark shades -- The end of tears -- Switching places -- Phantom dick -- Adam's apple. Helen Boyd's husband, who had long been open about being a cross-dresser, was considering living as a woman full time. Suddenly, Boyd was confronted with the reality of what it would mean if her husband were actually to become a woman socially, legally, and medically. Would Boyd love and desire her partner the same way? Boyd's first book, My Husband Betty , explored the relationships of cross-dressing men and their partners. Now, She's Not the Man I Married is both a sequel and a more expansive examination of gender in relationships. It's for couples who are homosexual or heterosexual, and for readers who fall anywhere along the gender continuum. As Boyd struggles to understand the nature of marriage, passion, and love, she shares her confusion and anger, providing a fascinating observation of the ways in which relationships are gendered, and how we cope, or don't, with the emotional and sexual pressures that gender roles can bring to our marriages and relationships.