Self-Confidence : the Remarkable Truth of How a Small Change Can Boost Your Resilience and Increase Your Success.

The special Tenth Anniversary Edition of the classic, bestselling guide to increasing self-confidence and boosting personal and professional success Confidence is profoundly important to virtually every aspect of our lives its the main ingredient for handling anything thrown at us. Whether in our school or business careers, personal relationships or the way in which we present ourselves to the world, confidence is often the deciding factor between success or failure. But how does one increase self-confidence? Sunday Times best selling Author Paul McGee has helped thousands of people answer this very question with his bestselling book Self-Confidence . Blending Pauls humour and wit with expert insights and practical advice, this beloved resource remains the essential guide to increasing self-confidence and boosting success. Paul shows you how increasing your confidence by even a small amount can lead to dramatic positive changes in your life. Celebrating its tenth year in publication, this new Anniversary Edition has been extensively updated to address current hot topics and trends for improving confidence and driving personal and professional success. Paul offers new guidance on strengthening resilience, promoting well-being, enhancing mental health and much more. Along the way, Paul shares honest and very personal stories from his own life to highlight important lessons and reinforce your confidence-building process. This must-have guide will help The special edition of Self-Confidence provides everything you need to start on the path to increased confidence, resilience and success. You will be astonished by what you can accomplish when you have the confidence to try. Self-Confidence: The Remarkable Truth of How a Small Change Can Boost Your Resilience and Increase Your Success 5 Contents 9 Preface 11 About the Author 19 Introduction 21 Getting More from Your Read 24 SECTION ONE The Stuff You Need to Know 29 1 Why Self-Confidence Is the X-Factor for Life 31 What’s the Big Deal about Confidence? 32 You Don’t Have to Be Ill 36 Self-Confidence Is the Key 42 Self-Confidence – What it will and won’t lead to 43 It won’t lead to you 43 It will put you in a better position to 43 How Confidence Can Help You Make the Most of Life 44 It’s Time for Some Honesty 46 2 Taking the “Con” Out of Confidence 49 Five Myths around Developing Self-Confidence 50 Myth Number One: Once You Have Confidence You Can Master Anything 50 Myth Number Two: Some People Are Just Born Confident 53 Confidence is situational 54 Myth Number Three: Humility Is the Opposite of Confidence 56 Myth Number Four: There Can Be No Room for Self-Doubt 61 Myth Number Five: Alcohol Gives You Confidence 63 So Far 65 3 Who Shaped Your Confidence? Your Upbringing 67 How Beliefs Affect Your Confidence 71 Who Influences Your Beliefs about Yourself? 74 How Your Upbringing Influences Your Beliefs and Your Self-Confidence 78 Were Your Parents Awfulizers? 79 What Motivates an Awfulizer? 80 What to Do If You Were Brought up by an Awfulizer 82 What to Do If You’re an Awfulizer 83 Criticism, Acceptance, and Self-Confidence 84 4 Who Shaped Your Confidence? Other Influences 93 How Your Schooldays Affect Your Confidence 94 How the Media Can Influence Your Self-Confidence 99 How You Can Undermine Your Own Confidence 105 What do you say when you talk to yourself? 107 SECTION TWO The Stuff that Will Really Help 113 5 You’ll Get By with a Little Help from Your Friends 115 Desperately Dependent? 117 Where Does Your Support Come From? 118 The Cheerleader 120 The upside of a Cheerleader 120 The downside of a Cheerleader 120 The Challenger 122 The upside of a Challenger 122 The downside of a Challenger 122 The Coach 124 The upside of a Coach 125 The downside of a Coach 125 The Confidant 127 The upside of a Confidant 128 The downside of a Confidant 128 The Beatles Were Right 130 Different Roles for Different Folks 130 Widening Your Circle of Friends 135 6 How to Be Your Own Best Mate 139 Seven 10% Tips to Avoid Sabotaging Your Confidence 140 1 Accept that “flaws are us” 140 2 Go easy on the boxing glove 143 3 Perform plastic surgery on your mind 145 4 Get a grip of the wheel 148 5 Quit waiting to feel confident 150 6 Weigh up but don’t be weighed down by criticism 155 7 Take a success stocktake 159 7 How to Shine When Your Neck’s on the Line 167 Has Your Comfort Zone Become a Prison? 168 The Reason Bad News Spreads so Fast 169 Why You’re Stressed When You Need to Shine 171 Don’t Flee from Your Anxiety, Face Up to It 174 How to Calm Down 175 Petrified of Public Speaking? 178 Six 10% Tips For Public Speaking 179 1 Turn the spotlight onto your audience 179 2 S.L.I.M. your communication ‒ Say Less, Impact More 180 3 Put PowerPoint in its place 180 4 Say it with props 181 5 Stories sell 181 6 Avoid the hearse, go and rehearse 182 Inspired at Interviews? 185 Two 10% Tips For Job Interviews 186 1 If you care then prepare 186 2 Shining without sinning 189 A Date with Destiny? 193 Five 10% Tips For Dating 194 1 Perspective pays 194 2 Let’s do coffee 196 3 Dress with care 199 4 Be remembered ‒ for all the right reasons 201 5 Rejections are reality 206 8 Here’s How to Ramp Up Your Resilience 213 Setbacks Happen 214 Your 10% Tips on How to Ramp Up Your Resilience and Rebuild Your Confidence 217 1 Grieving is good 217 2 It ain’t what you see, it’s the way that you see it 223 3 Park the pride 230 4 Learn the lessons 232 5 Molehills matter 235 9 How to Handle Conflict Confidently 239 The Consequences of Conflict Handled Badly 240 The Way of the Avoider 241 The consequences of being an Avoider 243 The Way of the Aggressor 243 The consequences of being an Aggressor 244 How to Become More Confident and Assertive in Conflict Situations 245 1 Recognize it’s OK 246 2 Recognize that reality rules 247 3 Recognize your rights 248 4 Recognize your responsibilities 252 Be prepared 253 Focus on feelings and facts 254 Save their face 255 Be solution focused 256 10 Have You Got the Confidence to go M.A.D.? 265 The Confidence to Go M.A.D.? 270 Contribution Creates Confidence 270 Over to You 277 A Dreamer or a Doer? 281 11 A Little Extra to Take You Further 283 Seven Ways to Make the Most From Your Life 284 1 Remember, life is amazing 284 2 Success comes through your grit, not just your gift 286 3 Your diet is not just about what you eat 287 4 Have the courage to quit sometimes 287 5 Beware of too much time travel 288 6 Self-care isn’t selfish ‒ it’s crucial to your success and sanity 289 7 Show some leadership 290 How It Worked for Me 295 Other Books by Paul McGee 303 Want Paul to Speak for Your Organization? 311 Index 313 EULA 322 The special Tenth Anniversary Edition of the classic, bestselling guide to increasing self-confidence and boosting personal and professional success Confidence is profoundly important to virtually every aspect of our lives - it's the main ingredient for handling anything thrown at us. Whether in our school or business careers, personal relationships or the way in which we present ourselves to the world, confidence is often the deciding factor between success or failure. But how does one increase self-confidence? Sunday Times best sellingAuthor Paul McGee has helped thousands of people answer this very question with his bestselling book Self-Confidence . Blending Paul's humour and wit with expert insights and practical advice, this beloved resource remains the essential guide to increasing self-confidence and boosting success. Paul shows you how increasing your confidence by even a small amount can lead to dramatic positive changes in your life. Celebrating its tenth year in publication, this new Anniversary Edition has been extensively updated to addresses current “hot topics” and trends for improving confidence and driving personal and professional success. Paul offers new guidance on strengthening resilience, promoting well-being, enhancing mental health and much more. Along the way, Paul shares honest and very personal stories from his own life to highlight important lessons and reinforce your confidence-building process. This must-have guide will help you: Understand how making small changes will yield enormous results Manage self-doubt and overcome anxiety Discover who or what crushed your confidence and meet them head-on Refuse to let setbacks sap your confidence by turning them into motivation to forge ahead Step away from your comfort zone and achieve what you always wanted, but lacked the confidence to pursue The special edition of Self-Confidence provides everything you need to start on the path to increased confidence, resilience and success. You will be astonished by what you can accomplish when you have the confidence to try The Subject Of Confidence Continues To Be A Hot Topic. In Recent Years, Issues Such As Resilience, Wellbeing And Mental Health Have Received Huge Media Attention And There Is A Hunger To Gain Access To Ideas That Will Improve And Enhance Our Wellbeing And Improve Our Confidence In Ourselves. A Self-confidence 10th Anniversary Edition Will Incorporate All These Issues To Provide An Essential Guide To Increasing Self-confidence To Boost Success, Both In Our Personal And Professional Lives--