Reparenting the Child Who Hurts : A Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Attachments

Finally, a parenting book which demystifies the latest thinking on neurobiology, physiology and trauma and explains what the research means for the everyday life of parents of children who hurt. As experts on adoption and fostering who are adoptive parents themselves, Caroline Archer and Christine Gordon explain how this knowledge can help parents to better understand and care for their child. They explain why conventional parenting techniques are often not helpful for the child who has experienced early trauma and explore why therapeutic reparenting is the only way to help repair the unhealthy neurobiological and behavioural patterns which affect the child's development. They do not shy away from how difficult reparenting is, acknowledging how hard it can be to recognise our own fallibility as parents and to change our own parenting patterns. The authors also offer hard-won advice on a range of common parenting flashpoints - from defusing arguments and aggression to negotiating bedtimes and breaks in routine, and making sure that special occasions are remembered for all the right reasons. Reparenting the Child Who Hurts is a humane, no-nonsense survival guide for any parent caring for a child with developmental trauma or attachment difficulties, and will also provide information and insights for social workers, teachers, counsellors and other professionals involved in supporting adoptive and foster families. Finally, a parenting book which demystifies the latest thinking on neurobiology, physiology and trauma, and explains what the research means for parenting children who hurt. As experts on adoption and fostering who are also adoptive parents, Caroline Archer and Christine Gordon explain how this knowledge can help parents to better understand their child. They explain why conventional parenting techniques are often not helpful for the child who has experienced early trauma and how therapeutic reparenting is a more effective approach to repairing a child's unhealthy neurobiological and behavioural patterns. They do not shy away from difficult parenting issues: how hard it can be to recognise our own fallibility as parents and to change our own parenting patterns. The authors also offer hard-won advice on a range of common situations and flashpoints - from defusing arguments and aggressive behaviour to negotiating bedtimes and making sure that special occasions are remembered for all the right reasons. Reparenting the Child Who Hurts is a humane survival guide for any parent caring for I a child with developmental trauma or attachment difficulties, and will also provide essential insights for social workers, teachers, counsellors and other professionals involved in supporting adoptive and foster families. Book jacket An accessible guide to help foster and adoptive parents understand the neurobiological issues that affect children who have experienced early trauma. It demystifies the science behind child trauma, explains why conventional parenting won't work for these children and provides grounded advice on what will, addressing common parenting dilemmas. " ... A parenting book [that] demystifies the latest thinking on neurobiology, physiology and trauma, and explains what the research means for parenting children who hurt"--Cover, page [4]. " ... A parenting book [that] demystifies the latest thinking on neurobiology, physiology and trauma, and explains what the research means for parenting children who hurt"--Page 4 of cover