Overcoming Hate Through Dialogue : Confronting Prejudice, Racism, and Bigotry with Conversation-and Coffee (Women in Politics, Social Activism, Discrimination, Minority Studies)

How a TED Talk Speaker Learned to Successfully Confront Bigotry, Prejudice, and Racism "This brilliant and well-researched book ought to be required reading for anyone interested in conflict resolution; it gives nuance to an otherwise stale-mated debate." ― Journalisten Winner 2020 Indie Book Award for Social Change 2021 International Book Awards finalist in Social Change Highlighted in Publisher ́ s Weekly list of New Social Justice Books TED talk speaker Özlem Cekic offers a blueprint for confronting racism, prejudice and hatred. She calls her conflict resolution process "Dialogue Coffee". Familiarity and dialogue is the antidote to intolerance and prejudice. Özlems method of having coffee with people who send her hate mail has been recognized around the world and inspires listening, understanding and an end to blind hatred. When Özlem Cekic became the first Muslim MP in the Danish Parliament, her email inbox started flooding with hate mail and threats, and her first reaction was to delete and ignore each abusive message. But eventually, she decided to take a risk. She started replying to messages and inviting the senders to meet and engage in dialogue over coffee. What she discovered was that she could create change in the people who sent her hate mail, understand where their anger came from, and build friendships through finding common ground. It is possible to have a conversation with anyone if you : Listen and focus on what you have in common instead of your differences Praise your counterpart for having the courage to have this conversation Recognize the other person ́s emotions and feelings even if you don ́t agree with them Distance yourself from the other person ́s attitude, but never the human and their humanity Readers of books on activism, racism and social change like How to Be an Antiracist, The Racial Healing Handbook, or Rising Out of Hatred will be inspired and encouraged by Özlem Cekic's Overcoming Hate Through Dialogue. A TED Talk speaker offers a blueprint for confronting racism, prejudice and hatred, a conflict resolution process that she calls "Dialogue Coffee." Familiarity and dialogue are the antidote to intolerance and prejudice. zlem's method of having coffee with people who send her hate mail has been recognized around the world and inspires listening, understanding, and an end to blind hatred. When zlem Cekic became the first Muslim MP in the Danish Parliament, her email inbox started flooding with hate mail and threats, and her first reaction was to delete and ignore each abusive message. But eventually, she decided to take a risk. She started replying to each message and inviting the senders to meet and engage in dialogue over coffee. What she discovered was that she could create change in the people who sent her hate mail, understand where their anger came from, and build friendships through finding common ground. Imagine a world where we can have a conversation with anyone. Overcoming Hate through Dialogue teaches you how to make that a reality: - Listen and focus on what you have in common instead of your differences - Praise your counterpart for having the courage to have this conversation - Recognize the other person's emotions and feelings even if you don't agree with them - Distance yourself from the other person's attitude, but never the human and their humanity "This brilliant and well-researched book ought to be required reading for anyone interested in conflict resolution; it gives nuance to an otherwise stale-mated debate." -- Journalisten "As a bridge-builder, Cekic is refreshing; as a writer, she's surprisingly brilliant." -- Politiken A TED Talk speaker offers a blueprint for confronting racism, prejudice and hatred, a conflict resolution process that she calls “Dialogue Coffee.” Familiarity and dialogue are the antidote to intolerance and prejudice. Özlem's method of having coffee with people who send her hate mail has been recognized around the world and inspires listening, understanding, and an end to blind hatred. When Özlem Cekic became the first Muslim MP in the Danish Parliament, her email inbox started flooding with hate mail and threats, and her first reaction was to delete and ignore each abusive message. But eventually, she decided to take a risk. She started replying to each message and inviting the senders to meet and engage in dialogue over coffee. What she discovered was that she could create change in the people who sent her hate mail, understand where their anger came from, and build friendships through finding common ground. Imagine a world where we can have a conversation with anyone. Overcoming Hate through Dialogue teaches you how to make that a reality: · Listen and focus on what you have in common instead of your differences · Praise your counterpart for having the courage to have this conversation · Recognize the other person's emotions and feelings even if you don't agree with them · Distance yourself from the other person's attitude, but never the human and their humanity “This brilliant and well-researched book ought to be required reading for anyone interested in conflict resolution; it gives nuance to an otherwise stale-mated debate.” —Journalisten “As a bridge-builder, Cekic is refreshing; as a writer, she's surprisingly brilliant.” —Politiken

Overcome Hatred with Coffee and Conversation

Özlem Cekic, creator of #dialoguecoffee, turned hate mail and threats from racists and religious extremists into productive, bridge-building conversations—and you can, too.

Learn how to change the world—and change your life. We've all heard the expression "be the change you want to see in the world." But how do you actually do that?

When Özlem Cekic became the first Muslim MP in the Danish Parliament, her email inbox was inundated with hate mail and threats, and her gut reaction was to delete and ignore each abusive message. But eventually, she decided to take a risk. She started replying to each message and inviting the senders to meet and engage in dialogue over coffee. And with time, understanding, and patience, she began to make a difference, both in the lives of those who hated her before even meeting her, and in her own life.

Discover the journey behind the Dialogue Coffee Ted Talk with over a million viewers. In Overcoming Hate Through Dialogue learn the answers to questions like:

• Where do negative emotions like anger, frustration, and hatred come from?
• Can conversations break down prejudices and create change and understanding?
• What happens when we start looking for things we have in common instead of focusing only on our differences?

Readers of memoirs and books on activism and social change like How to Be an Antiracist, Lead from the Outside, or Rising Out of Hatred will be inspired and encouraged by Overcoming Hate Through Dialogue.

"She turned hate mail into bridge-building conversations. When Özlem Cekic became the first Muslim MP in the Danish Parliament, her email inbox was inundated with hate mail and threats. Her gut reaction was to delete and ignore each abusive message. But when a neo-Nazi threatened her, she chose a different approach: she started replying and inviting each sender to meet and engage in dialogue over coffee. She met people like Kim, a right-wing extremist and fervent Islamophobe. She met armed Muslim adolescents on Norrebro's Red Square, whose contempt for Danish peoples ran deep. She visited a mosque where the imam preached against democracy, and a church where the priest spoke against homosexuality. And, along the way, she confronted her own history of prejudice. With time, understanding, and patience, Özlem began to make a difference in both the lives of those who hated her before even meeting her -- and in her own"--back cover