NOT 'Just Friends' : Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

One of the world's leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.You're right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I'm telling you, we're just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage. One of the worlds leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of marital infidelityfrom suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent cheating and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. Youre right to be cautious when you hear these words: Im telling you, were just friends. Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for friendships that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
The controversial book that caused a media storm on three continents with its straight-talking “perceptive, blunt, and accessibly written” (Booksense.com) revelations about the new crisis of infidelity.

According to Dr. Shirley Glass, “the godmother of infidelity” ( The New York Times ), people today are cheating on their spouses more than ever before—especially in the workplace. Dispelling common myths with compelling new research and case studies, NOT “Just Friends” is a groundbreaking chronicle of what occurs before, during, and after an affair: the danger signs, the vulnerabilities of even good marriages, and the step-by-step road to healing and protecting monogamy in the aftermath.

"You're right to be cautious when you hear these words: "I'm telling you, we're just friends." Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for "friendships" that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage."--Publisher's website I'm telling you, we're just friends Crossing into a double life Reaching the moment of revelation In the wake of discovery Should you pick up the pieces or throw in the towel? How to cope with obsessing and flashbacks Repairing the couple and building goodwill Story of the affair Story of your marriage Your individual stories Story of outside influences Story of the affair partner Healing together Forgiving and moving forward Healing alone Afterword: mini-guide to safe friendships and a secure marriage. Accompanied by case stories, a thought-provoking and compassionate guide documents the entire cycle of an affair, offering a step-by-step approach to healing and protecting monogamy after betrayal, as well as providing a new model for preventing an affair, one that preserves both marriage and friendship