No more meltdowns : positive strategies for dealing with and preventing out-of-control behavior

It could happen at the grocery store. At a restaurant. At school. At home. Meltdowns are stressful for both child and adult, but Dr. Baker can help! Author of the award-winning Social Skills Picture Book series, Dr. Jed Baker offers parents and teachers strategies for preventing and managing meltdowns. His 20+ years of experience working with children on the autism spectrum, combined with his personal experiences raising his own children, have yielded time-tested strategies, and results! Dr. Baker offers an easy-to-follow, 4-step model that will improve your everyday relationships with the children in your life: 1) Managing your own emotions by adjusting your expectations, 2) Learning strategies to calm a meltdown in the moment, 3) Understanding why a meltdown occurs, and 4) Creating plans to prevent future meltdowns. Helpful chapters include: Meltdowns: When rewards and punishments are not enough What are meltdowns made of? Accepting and appreciating our children De-escalating a meltdown Understanding why repeat problems occur Creating a prevention plan Demands Waiting Threats to self-image Unmet wishes for attention Cover......Page 2 Titel Page......Page 4 Copyright......Page 7 Acknowledgements......Page 10 Table of Contents......Page 13 Foreword......Page 24 Introduction......Page 26 The Problem......Page 32 What is a meltdown?......Page 33 The usual parenting advice: start with rules and consequences......Page 37 The limits of discipline: when rewards and punishments no longer work......Page 39 But aren't meltdowns just manipulative behavior?......Page 41 Can we really expect no more meltdowns?......Page 43 An overview of the four-step model for reducing meltdowns......Page 44 Chapter 2......Page 52 What are meltdowns made of?......Page 53 Fight, flight or freeze response......Page 55 Temperament......Page 58 Difficulties with abstract thinking and perspective taking......Page 60 Inflexibility......Page 64 An explosive combination......Page 65 The Solution......Page 70 Accepting and appreciating our children......Page 71 Controlling our own frustration......Page 73 Building competence......Page 75 Avoiding learned helplessness......Page 77 The 80/20 rule......Page 79 Anticipating frustration as part of learning......Page 81 When to avoid power struggles......Page 82 De-escalating a meltdown......Page 92 How to de-escalate a meltdown......Page 96 Distractions......Page 97 When too much distraction can make things worse......Page 103 Helping children find their own distractions and calming strategies......Page 106 Steps for creating self-calming strategies......Page 108 Understanding why repeat problems occur......Page 117 Understanding the triggers......Page 119 The ABCs of behavior: Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence......Page 120 Getting the ABCs: Interviews and observations......Page 121 Seeing the pattern......Page 132 Creating a prevention plan......Page 138 The components of a good prevention plan......Page 139 A prevention plan for Kevin......Page 147 The four types of meltdown situations......Page 152 Plans for the Four Types of Meltdown Situations......Page 158 Demands......Page 159 Do your schoolwork......Page 160 Try it, it's delicious......Page 172 Hurry up, the bus is coming......Page 181 Clean up......Page 189 Let's go to the party......Page 194 Waiting......Page 204 Just wait......Page 205 You can't always get what you want......Page 215 Okay, time to stop playing......Page 226 Threats to self-image......Page 236 Winning isn't everything......Page 237 It's okay to make mistakes......Page 245 But names will never hurt you......Page 255 Unmet wishes for attention......Page 269 I can't play with you now......Page 271 Don't be jealous......Page 278 Time to go to bed......Page 290 Closing thoughts: Finding your own way......Page 309 Prevention plan form......Page 311 References......Page 315 Want to have a print copy of this book?......Page 320 Cover 2 Titel Page 4 Copyright 7 Acknowledgements 10 Table of Contents 13 Foreword 24 Introduction 26 The Problem 32 Chapter 1 33 Meltdowns: When rewards and punishments are not enough 33 What is a meltdown? 33 The usual parenting advice: start with rules and consequences 37 The limits of discipline: when rewards and punishments no longer work 39 But aren't meltdowns just manipulative behavior? 41 Can we really expect no more meltdowns? 43 An overview of the four-step model for reducing meltdowns 44 Chapter 2 52 What are meltdowns made of? 53 Fight, flight or freeze response 55 Temperament 58 Difficulties with abstract thinking and perspective taking 60 Inflexibility 64 An explosive combination 65 The Solution 70 Chapter 3 71 Accepting and appreciating our children 71 Controlling our own frustration 73 Building competence 75 Avoiding learned helplessness 77 The 80/20 rule 79 Anticipating frustration as part of learning 81 When to avoid power struggles 82 Chapter 4 92 De-escalating a meltdown 92 How to de-escalate a meltdown 96 Distractions 97 When too much distraction can make things worse 103 Helping children find their own distractions and calming strategies 106 Steps for creating self-calming strategies 108 Chapter 5 117 Understanding why repeat problems occur 117 Understanding the triggers 119 The ABCs of behavior: Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence 120 Getting the ABCs: Interviews and observations 121 Seeing the pattern 132 Chapter 6 138 Creating a prevention plan 138 The components of a good prevention plan 139 A prevention plan for Kevin 147 The four types of meltdown situations 152 Plans for the Four Types of Meltdown Situations 158 Chapter 7 159 Demands 159 Do your schoolwork 160 Try it, it's delicious 172 Hurry up, the bus is coming 181 Clean up 189 Let's go to the party 194 Chapter 8 204 Waiting 204 Just wait 205 You can't always get what you want 215 Okay, time to stop playing 226 Chapter 9 236 Threats to self-image 236 Winning isn't everything 237 It's okay to make mistakes 245 But names will never hurt you 255 Chapter 10 269 Unmet wishes for attention 269 I can't play with you now 271 Don't be jealous 278 Time to go to bed 290 Chapter 11 309 Closing thoughts: Finding your own way 309 Prevention plan form 311 References 315 Want to have a print copy of this book? 320 EBC,Converted It could happen at the grocery store, at a restaurant, at school, or at home. Meltdowns are stressful for both child and adult, but Dr. Baker can help! Author of the award-winning Social Skills Picture Book series, Dr. Jed Baker offers parents and teachers strategies for preventing and managing meltdowns. Over twenty years of experience working with children on the autism spectrum combined with his personal experiences raising his own children have yielded time-tested strategiesand results! Dr. Baker offers an easy-to-follow, four-step model that will improve your everyday relationships with the children in your life, including managing your own emotions by adjusting your expectations, learning strategies to calm a meltdown in the moment, understanding why a meltdown occurs, and creating plans to prevent future meltdowns. Helpful chapters : When rewards and punishments are not enough What are meltdowns made of? Accepting and appreciating our children De-escalating a meltdown Understanding why repeat problems occur Creating a prevention plan And more! Provides an easy-to-follow, four-step model to improve your everyday relationships with the children in your life: managing your own emotions by adjusting your expectations, learning strategies to calm a meltdown in the moment, understanding why a meltdown occurs, and creating plans to prevent future meltdowns Explains sensory processing disorder (SPD), its assessment, diagnosis and treatment. Provides parents with tips on how to help their children face everyday challenges and how to create a sensory-friendly classroom. Compares sensory processing disorder with other look-alike disorders