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The most popular question any pregnant woman is asked #x97; aside from "When are you due?" #x97; has got to be "Are you having a girl or a boy?" When author Andrea Buchanan was pregnant with her daughter, she was thrilled to be expecting a girl. Some people were happy for her; visions of flouncy pink dresses and promises of mother-daughter bonding were the predictable responses. Other people, though, were concerned: "Is your husband OK with that?" "You can try again." "Girls are tough." This mixed message led her to explore the issue herself, with help from her fellow writers and moms, many of whom had had the same experience. As she did in It's a Boy: Women Writers on Raising Sons, Buchanan and her contributors take on what it's really like to raise a child-in this case, a girl-from babyhood to adulthood. It's a Girl, is a wide-ranging, often humorous, and honest collection of essays about the experience of the mother-daughter bond, taking on topics like "princess power" ("Shining, Shimmering, Splendid"), adding a girl to a brood of boys ("Confessions of a Tomboy Mom"), dealing with a daughter's eating disorder ("The Food Rules"), and mothering "hardcore mini-feminists" ("Tough Girls")

Sex. After. Baby.

These three words are whispered by mothers everywhere who find themselves stumped and shocked by the state of their sex lives. Naughty Mommy Heidi Raykeil has been down that road and chronicles her experiences in her online column Sex in the Suburbs. Raykeil knows firsthand that there are still plenty of things our mothers (and friends, and doctors) don’t tell us about motherhood, but that every mother should know.

While the media continues to bombard us with images of sex everywhere we turn, the reality for married couples with children today is much different. Do-it-all-moms seem to be doing everything except IT. Raykeil is out to change that.

Confessions of a Naughty Mommy is a funny, honest, and sexy account of Raykeil’s search for her missing libido—lost in action after she gave birth to her daughter. She takes readers along on her journey from mystified and frustrated new mom through the bumpy awkwardness of reigniting the home fires during naptime and date night to a newfound discovery and appreciation of sex after baby. With humor, grit, and style, she shares what has worked for her and her husband, as they balance their dual roles of parents and lovers.

Sex. After. Baby. These three words are whispered by mothers everywhere who find themselves stumped and shocked by the state of their sex lives. Naughty Mommy Heidi Raykeil has been down that road and chronicles her experiences in her online column Sex in the Suburbs. Raykeil knows firsthand that there are still plenty of things our mothers (and friends, and doctors) don't tell us about motherhood, but that every mother should know. While the media continues to bombard us with images of sex everywhere we turn, the reality for married couples with children today is much different. Do-it-all-moms seem to be doing everything except IT. Raykeil is out to change that. Confessions of a Naughty Mommy is a funny, honest, and sexy account of Raykeil's search for her missing libido—lost in action after she gave birth to her daughter. She takes readers along on her journey from mystified and frustrated new mom through the bumpy awkwardness of reigniting the home fires during naptime and date night to a newfound discovery and appreciation of sex after baby. With humor, grit, and style, she shares what has worked for her and her husband, as they balance their dual roles of parents and lovers. One of the most stressful and traumatic events a person can face is the death of a spouse. It happened to Gloria Lenhart suddenly when her husband Nick, only forty-four years old, dropped dead while jogging. Planet Widow is the story of her struggle to negotiate motherhood, family, and career in a world that is suddenly unrecognizable. Serving as both a comfort and a cautionary tale, this powerful story helps answer real-life questions about coping with loss, as well as how to prepare for the unthinkable. Perhaps Lenharts biggest challenge is finding ways to help her sons cope with the loss of their father. Even before the funeral is over, Lenhart must fight for custody of her husbands son, sixteen-year-old Nikolaus, whom shes been a mother to for more than ten years. And like many widows, Lenhart finds herself faced with difficult financial realities as she is drawn into the realm of estate lawyers, probate courts, and unscrupulous stockbrokers. Planet Widow is a personal story of spunk and determination, told with a touch of humor. The book ends on a note of hope-that a loss experienced and survived can lead to a fuller understanding of what it means to live. Becoming a mother takes more than the physical act of giving birth or completing an adoption: it takes birthing oneself as a mother through psychological, intellectual, and spiritual work that continues throughout life. Yet most women's stories of personal growth after motherhood tend to remain untold. As writers and mothers, Andrea Buchanan and Amy Hudock were frustrated by what they perceived as a lack of writing by mothers that captured the ambiguity, complexity, and humor of their experiences. So they decided to create the place they wanted to find, with the kind of writing they wanted to read.This unique collection features the best of the online magazine literarymama.com, a site devoted to mama-centric writing with fresh voices, superior craft, and vivid imagery. While the majority of literature on parenting is not literary or is not written by mothers, this book is both. Including creative nonfiction, fiction, and poetry, Literary Mama celebrates the voices of the maternally inclined, paves the way for other writer mamas, and honors the difficult and rewarding work women do as they move into motherhood. Becoming a mother takes more than the physical act of giving birth or completing an it takes birthing oneself as a mother through psychological, intellectual, and spiritual work that continues throughout life. Yet most womens stories of personal growth after motherhood tend to remain untold. As writers and mothers, Andrea Buchanan and Amy Hudock were frustrated by what they perceived as a lack of writing by mothers that captured the ambiguity, complexity, and humor of their experiences. So they decided to create the place they wanted to find, with the kind of writing they wanted to read. This unique collection features the best of the online magazine literarymama.com, a site devoted to mama-centric writing with fresh voices, superior craft, and vivid imagery. While the majority of literature on parenting is not literary or is not written by mothers, this book is both. Including creative nonfiction, fiction, and poetry, Literary Mama celebrates the voices of the maternally inclined, paves the way for other writer mamas, and honors the difficult and rewarding work women do as they move into motherhood. The media, from Dr. Phil to the New York Times Magazine, is adamant that there is no love lost between working parents and those who stay home with their children, each fighting an ideological and economic war based on what they think is best for their children. Yet in reality, as Miriam Peskowitz powerfully discloses, parents dont want to fight one another at all; they simply want more options. Moreover, the very sides in this debate dont one third of all mothers work part-time, falling in the vast abyss between full-time careerist and at-home mommy. How does the corporate climate in America force women to claim either a career or a family at any given time? Are the choices women are makingto either adjust careers, "carousel" in and out of the workplace, or quit altogetherreally choices at all? And how do we expand the definition of productive worker to include an engaged parent? These questions and more are answered and explored in this moving and convincing treatise on the new-century collision between work and mothering. Nothing To Do But Wait -- Not A Trace -- What Would Jackie Do? -- We Are All In It Together -- One Great Party -- A Clear Message -- Always And Forever -- Home Sweet Home -- Back To Normal -- Truth Hurts -- Honoring Memories -- Taking Charge -- Legal Advice -- Learning To Cope -- Looking For Nick -- Bills To Pay -- All Business -- Separation Anxiety -- Financial Security -- A Whole Different Planet -- Set In Stone -- Getting Help -- Falling Apart -- The Grief Group -- Other Ways To Cope -- The Letter -- Therapy -- Losing It -- Navigating The Bureaucracy -- Lessons In Intuition -- Losing The Hat -- Reaching An Agreement -- A Needed Vacation -- A Distasteful Dinner -- Better Than Therapy -- No Place Like Home -- Unexpected Help -- More Hoops To Jump Through -- Common Ground -- Moving Out -- Divorce Is Different -- Back To Life -- Milestones -- Leaving Memories Behind -- Breaking Family Ties -- Strength In Crisis -- Moving On -- What I've Learned. Gloria Lenhart. Includes Bibliographical References (p. 274-279). Teenagers: they roam in packs, mope silently in their rooms, sneak out, talk back, sneer, yell, roll their eyes, and think their parents just might be the dumbest creatures on Earth. Raising a teen is perhaps the most challenging phase of childrearing, a time when kids push every known hot button and wreak havoc with carefully thought-out parenting strategies. I Wanna Be Sedated brings a sense of humor and perspective to some of the deepest worries of parents. Joyce Maynard explores the house rules for boy-girl sleepovers in "The Girlfriend Sleeps Over," Dan Glick writes about drug dilemmas in "I Definitely Inhaled." Debra Gwartney speaks candidly about every parent's worst nightmare in "Runaway Daughter." And, Anna Quindlen reflects upon her rapidly emptying nest in "Flown Away, Left Behind." Featuring dynamic, top-caliber writing, this delightful collection speaks to the challenging, exhilarating, and occasionally mind-blowing task of parenting teenagers.

the Most Popular Question Any Pregnant Woman Is Asked — Aside From When Are You Due? — Has Got To Be Are You Having A Girl Or A Boy? When Author Andrea Buchanan, Already A Mom To A Little Girl, Was Pregnant With Her Second Child, She Marveled At The Response Of Friends And Total Strangers Alike: Boys Are Wonderful, Boys Are So Much Better Than Girls, Boys Love Their Mothers Differently Than Girls. This Constant Refrain Led Her To Explore The Issue Herself, With Help From Her Fellow Writers And Moms, Many Of Whom Had Had The Same Experience.

the Result Is it's A Boy, A Wide-ranging, Often-humorous, And Honest Collection Of Essays About The Experience Of Mothering Boys. Taking On Topics Like Aggression, Parenting A Teenage Boy, And Wishing For A Daughter But Getting A Son, it's A Boy Explores What It's Like To Mother Sons And How That Experience May Be Different, But No Less Satisfying, Than Mothering Girls.

The most popular question any pregnant woman is asked -- aside from "When are you due?"--Has got to be "Are you having a girl or a boy?" When author Andrea Buchanan, already a mom to a little girl, was pregnant with her second child, she marveled at the response of friends and total strangers alike: "Boys are wonderful," "Boys are so much better than girls," "Boys love their mothers differently than girls." This constant refrain led her to explore the issue herself, with help from her fellow writers and moms, many of whom had had the same experience. The result is "It's A Boy, a wide-ranging, often-humorous, and honest collection of essays about the experience of mothering boys. Taking on topics like aggression, parenting a teenage boy, and wishing for a daughter but getting a son, "It's A Boy explores what it's like to mother sons and how that experience may be different, but no less satisfying, than mothering girls The most popular question any pregnant woman is asked, aside from "When are you due?", has got to be "Are you having a girl or a boy?" When author Andrea Buchanan, already a mom to a little girl, was pregnant with her second child, she marveled at the response of friends and total strangers "Boys are wonderful," "Boys are so much better than girls," "Boys love their mothers differently than girls." This constant refrain led her to explore the issue herself, with help from her fellow writers and moms, many of whom had had the same experience. The result is It's A Boy , a wide-ranging, often-humorous, and honest collection of essays about the experience of mothering boys. Taking on topics like aggression, parenting a teenage boy, and wishing for a daughter but getting a son, It's A Boy explores what it's like to mother sons and how that experience may be different, but no less satisfying, than mothering girls. The most popular question any pregnant woman is asked, aside from'When are you due?', has got to be'Are you having a girl or a boy?'When author Andrea Buchanan, already a mom to a little girl, was pregnant with her second child, she marveled at the response of friends and total strangers alike:'Boys are wonderful,''Boys are so much better than girls,''Boys love their mothers differently than girls.'This constant refrain led her to explore the issue herself, with help from her fellow writers and moms, many of whom had had the same experience. The result is It's A Boy, a wide-ranging, often-humorous, and honest collection of essays about the experience of mothering boys. Taking on topics like aggression, parenting a teenage boy, and wishing for a daughter but getting a son, It's A Boy explores what it's like to mother sons and how that experience may be different, but no less satisfying, than mothering girls. Nothing to do but wait Not a trace What would Jackie do? We are all in it together One great party A clear message Always and forever Home sweet home Back to normal Truth hurts Honoring memories Taking charge Legal advice Learning to cope Looking for Nick Bills to pay All business Separation anxiety Financial security A whole different planet Set in stone Looking for help Falling apart The grief group Other ways to cope The letter Therapy Losing it Navigating the bureaucracy Lessons in intuition Losing the hat Reaching an agreement A needed vacation A distasteful dinner Better than therapy No place like home Unexpected help More hoops to jump Common ground Moving out Divorce is different Back to life Milestones Leaving memories behind Breaking family ties Strength in crisis Moving on What I've learned. This Moving And Convincing Treatise Explores The New-century Collision Between Work And Mothering. How Does The Corporate Climate In America Force Women To Claim Either A Career Or A Family At Any Given Time? And Are The Choices Women Make - To Either Adjust Their Careers, Carousel In And Out Of The Workplace, Or Quit Altogether - Really Choices At All?--jacket. Introduction -- Do Real Women Have Mommy Wars? -- The Parent Problem -- Are Mothers Really Opting Out? -- Mothers In The Middle -- We Need Some Relief -- What Do You Do With Your Time? -- Playground Revolution -- Epilogue -- Notes. Miriam Peskowitz. Includes Bibliographical References (p. 235-240). This unique collection features the best of the online magazine literarymama.com, a site devoted to mother-centric writing with fresh voices, superior craft, and vivid imagery. While the majority of literature on parenting is not literary or is not written by mothers, this book is both. Including creative nonfiction, fiction, and poetry, Literary Mama celebrates the voices of the maternally inclined, paves the way for other mother-writers, and honors the difficult and rewarding work women do as they move into motherhood The wide-ranging essays in this collection examine the mother-daughter bond and the experience of raising girls. Taking on topics like "princess power" ("Shining, Shimmering, Splendid"), adding a girl to a brood of boys ("Confessions of a Tomboy Mom"), dealing with a daughter's eating disorder ("The Food Rules"), and raising hardcore junior feminists ("Tough Girls"), the contributors explore the gap between their expectations about raising girls and the reality of the situation with wit, grace, and refreshing honesty. After seven racy and passionate years of courtship and marriage, Heidi Raykeil's sex life suddenly tanked. The culprit: the most beautiful, precious, gentle little person she had ever seen-her newborn baby daughter. Where once she and her husband had stayed up until 3 A.M. bouncing each other off the walls, now they were up at 3 taking turns bouncing their daughter on their knees, desperate to get her back to bed A guide to young widowhood, based on the author's own experiences, shares the story of her struggles with grief, efforts to help her sons to cope with the loss of their father, custody battle for her stepson, and financial challenges in the wake of estate lawyers and probate courts. Reprint. A collection of nonfiction, fiction, and poetry culled from the literarymama.com Web site features some of the online magazine's best pieces written by or about mothers and serves to honor and celebrate the challenges faced by mothers and the maternally inclined. Reprint. These comments aired recently on daytime TV on a show that separated working moms and stay-at-home moms-literally seated them on opposite sides of the aisle-because, as we all know, "there's a big division between them." Introduction: Sex in the suburbs Ticket to the moon Sexhaustion Fault lines Becoming mine Spillproof love Selflove in Seattle Freedom, baby Epilogue: Just do it. Forgetting-like nausea-is a matter of waves and walking into this new remembering strangles narration and its false beginnings. WE MET IN A PLACE where mothers have met for generations: in the hallway of the local elementary school. Long before I got pregnant, I began to fantasize about my imaginary daughter. A collection of fiction, nonfiction, and poetry which celebrates motherhood