How to help your spouse heal from your affair : a compact manual for the unfaithful

Qualities of successful rebuilders: 'Getting it' -- The three R's of successful rebuilders -- Guidelines for discovery and disclosure -- Stumbling blocks to severing ties -- Undoing the damage from your lies and rationalizations -- How to change your role from destroyer to healer -- Rebuilding trust -- Responding to your spouse's triggers -- Dealing with your partner's obsessions -- Making amends with your children -- Changing your core character -- But what about my partner's faults? -- Summary.;Most unfaithful partners underestimate the breadth and depth of the fallout after infidelity. If you have had an affair but have regrets and hope to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading this book! Or if you are the injured spouse and your unfaithful partner keeps hurting you with his/her attempts to help you feel better in all the wrong ways, put this manual into your spouse's hands, right away. Find out for yourself what the difference is between those who successfully manage to repair and rebuild their marriages into better-than-ever relationships. This book provides a practical road map for unfaithful spouces who wish to have another chance with their partners. Easy to read, even for the self-help book phobic! Sometimes, upon discovery of an affair, the unfaithful person wakes up and wants to save his or her marriage. However, most betraying spouses are completely unprepared for the ensuing tumult, emotional roller-coaster, and trauma reactions by the injured partner. They often make terrible mistakes in their efforts to calm their spouses and stop the earthquake that has shaken their marriages to the core, inadvertently hastening the path to divorce. As an infidelity specialist for 23 years, Linda J. MacDonald has identified certain behaviors on the part of unfaithful spouses that determine the success or failure to save their marriages. "How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair" provides a practical road map for unfaithful spouses who wish to have another chance with their partners. Find out for yourself what the difference is between those who blow up their marriages in the aftermath of affairs and those who successfully manage to repair and rebuild their marriages into better-than-ever relationships. I regularly provide copies of How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair to my clients who are facing this challenge. Unanim-ously they report, That [book] was very helpful. I notice they continue to use it. I believe the expanded version will be even more helpful. Earl D. Wilson, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist, Portland, OR Author of Steering Clear, and coauthor of Restoring the Fallen Your material on helping spouses heal from an affair was absolutely excellent. I have counseled for twenty-five years and found it well-done, balanced, and accurate. Jim Velez M.S., M.A., L.P.C., Portland, Oregon