How to avoid falling in love with a jerk : the foolproof way to follow your heart without losing your mind

AVOID THE JERKS AND FIND “THE ONE” WHO'S RIGHT FOR YOU "An insightful and creative contribution to managing the complexity of choosing a life partner. I heartily recommend it." —Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find "Don't be part of the 'where-was-this-book-when-I-needed-it?' crowd. It's not too late—read it now!" —Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love and Hot Monogamy Based on years of research on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (previously published in hardcover as How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk ) will help you break destructive dating patterns that have kept you from finding the love you deserve: Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner Judge character based on compatibility, relationships skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships Resolve your own emotional baggage so you're ready for a healthy relationship 'Insightful, eye-opening, practical andhighly readable, [this book] is for anyonewho's tired of dating and wants to finally find 'the one'.'--John Gray, author ofMen Are from Mars, Women Are from VenusDrawing on clinical research on love, attachment,and intimacy,How to Avoid Falling in Love with aJerkreveals how you can make smarter choices ofyour romantic partners and avoid heartbreak later. Based on Dr. John Van Epp's nationally renowned 'Howto Avoid Marrying a Jerk' workshops, this book presentshis trademarked Relationship Attachment Model(RAM), which breaks down the five dynamic bondingforces that influence a relationship. Van Epp helps yousimply and succinctly identify--and break--destructive dating patterns. Most important, he showsyou how to recognize 'The Right One' when he orshe comes along. Drawing on clinical research on love, attachment, and intimacy, this book reveals how you can make smarter choices of your romantic partners and avoid heartbreak later. It presents the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM), which breaks down the five dynamic bonding forces that influence a relationship. Draws on clinical research to counsel readers on how to make careful choices when pursuing relationships in order to maximize one's chances for success, in a guide based on the author's "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk" workshops that explain how people can break destructive dating patterns. Original.