Getting Past Your Breakup : How to Turn a Devastating Loss Into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You

It's over--and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you __can__move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out. __Getting Past Your Breakup__ is a proven roadmap for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now, she'll help you put your energy back where it belongs--on you. Her plan includes: * The rules of disengagement: how and why to go "no contact" with your ex * How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life * The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships * What to do when you can't stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house Complete with inspiring stories from real people and strategies to jump-start the moving-on process, __Getting Past Your Breakup__ is the most effective plan for getting permanently past a breakup, getting your confidence back, and opening yourself to true love.

From the creator of the Getting Past Your Past blog, a tough-love method for making life after a breakup an empowering experience

Publishers Weekly

An estimated 43 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in separation or divorce, a grim reminder that most all of us experiences at least one painful breakup in our lifetimes; speaker and certified grief therapist Elliot has come to understand that many aren't successful in overcoming that pain, which can stall anyone's personal and professional life indefinitely. Using her personal experience and stories from her practice, Elliott provides sound advice for those still driving by the ex's house or obsessed with self-blame. She advises a cold-turkey, "No Contact" blanket rule, but doesn't ignore the reality of situations involving mutual friends or a shared workplace, and provides seven rules for making things easier on the kids. As the end of a relationship can be much like the death of a loved one, Elliott also reviews the grief process and its importance in processing loss. While working through grief and putting time into serious self-examination won't necessarily "transform your life into everything you've always wanted it to be," the payoff should be steady progress toward a mended heart, a clear conscience and a stronger sense of self.
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It’s over—and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.Getting Past Your Breakup is a proven roadmap for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now, she’ll help you put your energy back where it belongs—on you. Her plan includes:• The rules of disengagement: how and why to go “no contact” with your ex• How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life• The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships• What to do when you can’t stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the houseComplete with inspiring stories from real people and strategies to jump-start the moving-on process, Getting Past Your Breakup is the most effective plan for getting permanently past a breakup, getting your confidence back, and opening yourself to true love. A proven plan for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, including divorce, with practical strategies for healing, getting your confidence back, and finding true love It's over--and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of people transform their love lives. Now in Getting Past Your Breakup, she'll help you put your energy back where it belongs--on you. Her plan includes:The rules of disengagement: how and why to go'no contact'with your exHow to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your lifeThe secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationshipsWhat to do when you can't stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house CONTENTS......Page 10 Preface: My Story......Page 12 Introduction......Page 28 1. Road Map to Healing: How This Book Will Change Your Life......Page 32 2. The Rules of Disengagement: Going "No Contact" with Your Ex......Page 48 3. Grief as the Healing Feeling......Page 78 4. Taking Care of Yourself......Page 100 5. What about the Kids? Seven Rules for Making Things Easier for Your Children......Page 138 6. Bringing the Big Picture into Focus: The Relationship and Life Inventories......Page 160 7. Where Do You End and I Begin? Developing Limits and Boundaries......Page 180 8. Moving On: The Path to Real Love......Page 200 9. Letters from Readers and Frequently Asked Questions......Page 226 Afterword: Keep the Good Things Working in Your Life......Page 244 Bibliography......Page 246 A......Page 250 B......Page 251 C......Page 252 D......Page 254 F......Page 255 G......Page 256 H......Page 257 L......Page 258 N......Page 259 P......Page 260 R......Page 261 S......Page 262 Y......Page 264 CONTENTS 10 Preface: My Story 12 Introduction 28 1. Road Map to Healing: How This Book Will Change Your Life 32 2. The Rules of Disengagement: Going "No Contact" with Your Ex 48 3. Grief as the Healing Feeling 78 4. Taking Care of Yourself 100 5. What about the Kids? Seven Rules for Making Things Easier for Your Children 138 6. Bringing the Big Picture into Focus: The Relationship and Life Inventories 160 7. Where Do You End and I Begin? Developing Limits and Boundaries 180 8. Moving On: The Path to Real Love 200 9. Letters from Readers and Frequently Asked Questions 226 Afterword: Keep the Good Things Working in Your Life 244 Bibliography 246 Index 250 A 250 B 251 C 252 D 254 E 255 F 255 G 256 H 257 I 258 L 258 M 259 N 259 O 260 P 260 R 261 S 262 T 264 V 264 W 264 Y 264