Friendshifts : the power of friendship and how it shapes our lives

This is the 2nd edition of FRIENDSHIFTS, revised and updated. It is based on more than 15 years of original research by sociologist and friendship expert Dr. Jan Yager, exploring how friendships shift and change as we go through various stages in life. Friendshifts is the word Dr. Yager coined to describes those friendship changes. There is a new introduction to this e-book version of the 2nd edition of Friendshifts: The Power of Friendship and How It Shapes Our Lives, by sociologist, friendship expert, and coach Jan Yager, Ph.D. In addition to a fresh cover, included in this electronic version is a new introduction, an updated bibliography, resource section, and additional materials in a new Appendix. Friendshifts is divided into five parts: Part 1, "That's What Friends Are For," covers the power of friendship, definitions of casual, close, and best friends; perspective on friendship including the Great Friend and the Modern Friend Approach; the process of becoming friends, from acquaintance to friend; and friendship patterns (two-way, three-way, four and more friendships); Part 2, "Friendshifts, or How Friendship Changes Throughout Life," has chapters on childhood and the single years and marriage and friendship; Part 3, "How to Be a Better Friend," has chapters on how to maintain and improve a friendship; how to prevent a friendship from ending; and how to handle friendships that end; Part 4, "Work and Friendship," has two chapters including "How Friendship Enhances Your Career" and "Male and Female Work Friendships;" and Part 5, "Life and Friendship" has two chapters including, "The Friendship Factor in Everyday Life," on how to apply the author's friendship principles to befriending your relatives including your children, your father or mother, and your spouse (romantic partner) and "Summing Up." The book is based on the author's doctoral thesis and additional original research consisting of surveys and interviews. Friendshifts is a word Dr. Yager coined to denote how sometimes our friendships may shift throughout our lives, and even how we define a friend. Fortunately, in some instances, lifelong friendship does happen. Friendshifts explores what you can do to help a friendship to last. Even with the most enduring friendships, there may be an ending because of death. (There is a section in Friendshifts on "Coping with Endings Because of Death.") The examples, anecdotes, quotes, and studies cited throughout the book reinforce the notion that the right friends will help you to get ahead or to be happy in life, and even to live a longer life; the wrong friends can sabotage you or even get you hurt or killed. Jan's talked about her on-going friendship research on THE VIEW, OPRAH, THE TODAY SHOW, GOOD MORNING AMERICA, CNN, SUNDAY MORNING, and other shows throughout the U.S. as well as in AUSTRALIA AND NEW ZEALAND. She's a friendship coach and she also gives workshops and speeches on friendship, personal friendships as well as friendships at work. For more on Jan, go to: www.whenfriendshiphurts.com. This is the e-book version of the 2nd edition of Friendshifts: The Power of Friendship and How It Shapes Our Lives, by sociologist, friendship expert, and coach Jan Yager, Ph.D. In addition to a fresh cover, included in this electronic version is a new introduction, an updated bibliography, resource section, and additional materials in a new Appendix. Friendshifts is divided into five parts: Part 1, "e;That's What Friends Are For,"e; covers the power of friendship, definitions of casual, close, and best friends; perspective on friendship including the Great Friend and the Modern Friend Approach; the process of becoming friends, from acquaintance to friend; and friendship patterns (two-way, three-way, four and more friendships); Part 2, "e;Friendshifts, or How Friendship Changes Throughout Life,"e; has chapters on childhood and the single years and marriage and friendship; Part 3, "e;How to Be a Better Friend,"e; has chapters on how to maintain and improve a friendship; how to prevent a friendship from ending; and how to handle friendships that end; Part 4, "e;Work and Friendship,"e; has two chapters including "e;How Friendship Enhances Your Career"e; and "e;Male and Female Work Friendships;"e; and Part 5, "e;Life and Friendship"e; has two chapters including, "e;The Friendship Factor in Everyday Life,"e; on how to apply the author's friendship principles to befriending your relatives including your children, your father or mother, and your spouse (romantic partner) and "e;Summing Up."e; The book is based on the author's doctoral thesis and additional original research consisting of surveys and interviews. Friendshifts is a word Dr. Yager coined to denote how sometimes our friendships may shift throughout our lives, and even how we define a friend. Fortunately, in some instances, lifelong friendship does happen. Friendshifts explores what you can do to help a friendship to last. Even with the most enduring friendships, there may be an ending because of death. (There is a section in Friendshifts on "e;Coping with Endings Because of Death."e;) The examples, anecdotes, quotes, and studies cited throughout the book reinforce the notion that the right friends will help you to get ahead or to be happy in life, and even to live a longer life; the wrong friends can sabotage you or even get you hurt or killed.

The right friends will help you thrive and succeed in life while the wrong friends can get you killed. Friendshifts will show you how to recognize the difference between healthy and destructive friendships as well as how to develop and maintain those friendships that will contribute to a longer, happier, and more successful life. Friendshifts, the word coined by friendship expert and sociologist Dr. Jan Yager, explains how friendships shift as we go from one stage in our life to another. The variety of roles we play throughout our lives - as student, worker, boss, spouse, or parent - changes, shifting the role that friendship plays.

Library Journal

"Friendshifts" is the word that sociologist Yager (Business Protocol: How To Survive & Succeed in Business, LJ 6/15/91) invented to explain how friendships change throughout life. Drawing on her own research, Yager discusses how friendships develop and how changes such as relocation, marriage, or a new job often provoke changes in relationships. Yager sees making friends as a skill that can be learned, but she cautions that each friendship is unique, with its own rules and privileges. Arguing that shared values are more important in predicting the longevity of a friendship than shared interests, Yager gives practical advice on how to nurture new friendships, maintain old friendships, salvage shaky friendships, and terminate destructive ones. Friendships at work, friendships with relatives, and ethnic, racial, and gender friendship patterns are also covered. Throughout, Yager ably demonstrates how friends can improve the quality of our lives, enhance our self-esteem, provide encouragement, and compensate for family defects. Well recommended for public libraries.-Lucille M. Boone, San Jose P.L., Cal.

The right friends will help you thrive and succeed in life while the wrong friends can get you killed. Friendshifts will show you how to recognize the difference between healthy and destructive friendships as well as how to develop and maintain those friendships that will contribute to a longer, happier, and more successful life. Friendshifts, the word coined by friendship expert and sociologist Dr. Jan Yager, explains how friendships shift as we go from one stage in our life to another. The variety of roles we play throughout our lives - as student, worker, boss, spouse, or parent - changes, shifting the role that friendship plays.

Publishers Weekly

A rewarding, sensible self-help manual for making, keeping and improving friendships, sociologist Yager's how-to takes its title from a word she coined, which refers to the way friendships change as we move through life's stages. Drawing on hundreds of interviews with adults, children, teenagers, workers and executives, she examines the challenges to friendship posed by marriage, divorce, parenthood, job changes and geographic relocation. Yager, whose 10 nonfiction books include Single in America, has distilled a morass of psychological and sociological research, including her own. Among her findings: it takes an average of three years to form a genuine friendship; women, as they advance in the corporate hierarchy, increasingly distrust workplace friendships, whereas men open up and trust these friends more; friendships can be a source of help for dysfunctional families, and for adults who had poor early relationships with parents or siblings. This primer amply supports its central message, that friends are vital to our emotional health. (Jan.)

A comprehensive study of friendship including children and friendship, marriage and friendship, how friendships are initiated and maintained; thebest predictor of longevity in friendship; how the friendship principles that Dr. Yager learned could be applied to oter relationships; index; linedrawings; charts and self-quizzes. Deux siècles, du milieu du 18e siècle à nos jours, cinq générations de médecins chirurgiens, occasion pour l'auteur de nous faire assister, par le biais du roman, à l'histoire des progrès en médecine, de l'anesthésie aux greffes d'organes