Finding the Hero in Your Husband : Surrendering the Way God Intended

'Why can't he remember our anniversary, when he can recite every Super Bowl winner since 1967?' 'He just doesn't understand that after working all day and caring for the kids, I'm just too tired to have sex.' 'Trying to get him to tell me how he feels is like pulling teeth!' As a psychologist, Dr. Juli Slattery knows firsthand that many women share the same frustrations about their husbands, whether they're newly wedded or celebrating a silver anniversary. As a Christian wife and mother, she, too, struggled with similar issues until she discovered the one simple truth about these seemingly insensitive and apathetic men: Each one of them is a hero. While some may seem more like 'zeros' than heroes, Dr. Slattery shows how every wife can find her hero, whether he's just beginning to fade from view or has disappeared altogether. As she explains, God has given women tremendous power in their relationships. Unfortunately, most women unwittingly either ignore their power or abuse it. This indispensable guide shows women how to use their strength in ways that encourage their husbands' potential instead of dominating and destroying it. While other advice books work well on paper but not in practice, Dr. Slattery helps women approach everyday situations from paying the bills and raising children to getting him to keep the toilet seat down and the intimacy level up. Dr. Slattery explores the maligned and misunderstood 's' word: submission. She explains what it is, what it isn't, how women can support their husbands while being true to their dreams, and practical steps women can take if they are living in a dictatorship. Probing questions and practical study guide exercises make it ideal for individual use or group study "This book is an essential tool for understanding the Christian concept of submission-a frequently misunderstood and often contentious subject. Dr. Slattery combines Christian principles, her professional expertise as a psychologist, and personal experience as a wife in this indispensable book to help women improve their marriages. When expectations of trust and intimacy go unfulfilled, a wife's anger and fear can result in unhealthy domination and control. The power of a woman's approval and perspective in a relationship cannot be underestimated; it must be directed in ways that promote intimacy instead of destroying it. Dr. Slattery advocates that the key to a successful Christian marriage is a wife's ability to encourage her husband to develop his leadership role in the marriage and her ability to avoid boredom in the bedroom. (The Journal of the American Medical Association reports that 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men are sexually dysfunctional.) Dr. Slattery uses illustrative case studies and scriptural guidelines to answer many essential questions and explain difficult and sometimes unpopular but relevant concepts to help Christian women improve their relationships. Each chapter concludes with questions for reflection and discussion, making it ideal for both individual reading and group study."--Publisher description Finding the Hero in Your Husband is an essential tool for understanding the Christian concept of submission-a frequently misunderstood and often contentious subject. Dr. Slattery combines Christian principles, her professional expertise as a psychologist, and personal experience as a wife in this indispensable book to help women improve their marriages. When expectations of trust and intimacy go unfulfilled, a wife's anger and fear can result in unhealthy domination and control. The power of a woman's approval and perspective in a relationship cannot be underestimated; it must be directed in ways that promote intimacy instead of destroying it. Dr. Slattery advocates that the key to a successful Christian marriage is a wife's ability to encourage her husband to develop his leadership role in the marriage and her ability to avoid boredom in the bedroom. (The Journal of the American Medical Association reports that 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men are... ebook,book

The reissue of Dr. Slattery's indispensable guide to creating a happy marriage. Now updated with questions for individual or group study use, this book offers practical steps to help women enjoy holy matrimony.

In my counseling practice, I hear far too many wives whose feelings could be expressed by this session with Kara.