Feeling Lonesome : The Philosophy and Psychology of Loneliness

Introduction -- Chapter 1. Historical and conceptual overview -- Chapter 2. Philosophical roots: self-consciousness/reflexivity -- Chapter 3. Philosophical roots: intentionality/transcendence -- Chapter 4. Loneliness and phenomenology -- Chapter 5. Psychological roots of loneliness -- Chapter 6. Loneliness and language -- Chapter 7. The unconscious and the subconscious -- Chapter 8. Therapeutic measures -- Afterword.;This book explains why the drive to avoid loneliness and secure intimacy is the most powerful psychological need in all human beings; documents how human beings gravitate between two motivational poles: loneliness and intimacy; and advocates for an understanding of loneliness through the principles of idealism, rationalism, and insight. Readers will understand the underlying theory of consciousness that explains why people are lonely, thereby becoming better equipped to recognize sources of loneliness in themselves as well as others. This book presents an intricate, interdisciplinary evaluation of loneliness that examines the relation of consciousness to loneliness. It views loneliness from the inside as a universal human condition rather than attempting to explain it away as an aberration, a mental disorder, or a temporary state to be addressed by superficial therapy and psychiatric medication.Loneliness is much more than just feeling sad or isolated. It is the ultimate ground source of unhappiness—the underlying reality of all negative human behavior that manifests as anxiety, depression, envy, guilt, hostility, or shame. It underlies aggression, domestic violence, murder, PTSD, suicide, and other serious issues. This book explains why the drive to avoid loneliness and secure intimacy is the most powerful psychological need in all human beings; documents how human beings gravitate between two motivational poles: loneliness and intimacy; and advocates for an understanding of loneliness through the principles of idealism, rationalism, and insight.Readers will understand the underlying theory of consciousness that explains why people are lonely, thereby becoming better equipped to recognize sources of loneliness in themselves as well as others. Written by a licensed social worker and former mental health therapist, the book documents why whenever individuals or groups feel lonely, alienated, estranged, disenfranchised, or rejected, they will either withdraw within and shut down, or they will attack others with little thought of consequence to either themselves or others. Perhaps most importantly, the work identifies the antidotes to loneliness as achieving a sense of belonging, togetherness, and intimacy through empathic emotional attachments, which come from a mutual sharing of'lived experiences'such as feelings, meanings, and values; constant positive communication; and equal decision making. This book presents an intricate, interdisciplinary evaluation of loneliness that examines the relation of consciousness to loneliness. It views loneliness from the inside as a universal human condition rather than attempting to explain it away as an aberration, a mental disorder, or a temporary state to be addressed by superficial therapy and psychiatric medication. Loneliness is much more than just feeling sad or isolated. It is the ultimate ground source of unhappinessthe underlying reality of all negative human behavior that manifests as anxiety, depression, envy, guilt, hostility, or shame. It underlies aggression, domestic violence, murder, PTSD, suicide, and other serious issues. This book explains why the drive to avoid loneliness and secure intimacy is the most powerful psychological need in all human beings; documents how human beings gravitate between two motivational loneliness and intimacy; and advocates for an understanding of loneliness through the principles of idealism, rationalism, and insight. Readers will understand the underlying theory of consciousness that explains why people are lonely, thereby becoming better equipped to recognize sources of loneliness in themselves as well as others. Written by a licensed social worker and former mental health therapist, the book documents why whenever individuals or groups feel lonely, alienated, estranged, disenfranchised, or rejected, they will either withdraw within and shut down, or they will attack others with little thought of consequence to either themselves or others. Perhaps most importantly, the work identifies the antidotes to loneliness as achieving a sense of belonging, togetherness, and intimacy through empathic emotional attachments, which come from a mutual sharing of "lived experiences" such as feelings, meanings, and values; constant positive communication; and equal decision making. Loneliness is much more than just feeling sad or isolated. It is the ultimate ground source of unhappiness--the underlying reality of all negative human behavior that manifests as anxiety, depression, envy, guilt, hostility, or shame. It underlies aggression, domestic violence, murder, PTSD, suicide, and other serious issues. This book explains why the drive to avoid loneliness and secure intimacy is the most powerful psychological need in all human beings; documents how human beings gravitate between two motivational poles: loneliness and intimacy; and advocates for an understanding of loneliness through the principles of idealism, rationalism, and insight. Readers will understand the underlying theory of consciousness that explains why people are lonely, thereby becoming better equipped to recognize sources of loneliness in themselves as well as others. Written by a licensed social worker and former mental health therapist, the book documents why whenever individuals or groups feel lonely, alienated, estranged, disenfranchised, or rejected, they will either withdraw within and shut down, or they will attack others with little thought of consequence to either themselves or others. Perhaps most importantly, the work identifies the antidotes to loneliness as achieving a sense of belonging, togetherness, and intimacy through empathic emotional attachments, which come from a mutual sharing of "lived experiences" such as feelings, meanings, and values; constant positive communication; and equal decision making. -- Publisher's description This Book Presents An Intricate, Interdisciplinary Evaluation Of Loneliness That Examines The Relation Of Consciousness To Loneliness. It Views Loneliness From The Inside As A Universal Human Condition Rather Than Attempting To Explain It Away As An Aberration, A Mental Disorder, Or A Temporary State To Be Addressed By Superficial Therapy And Psychiatric Medication. * Provides Key Insight Into The Dynamics Of Loneliness, Enabling Readers To Be Able To Recognize Its Sources And Counter Its Insidious And Invidious Force—not Only In One's Self, But In Others As Well * Presents Cross-disciplinary Perspectives That Addresses And Critiques Both Philosophical And Psychological Views On Loneliness * Reviews The Works And Words Of Philosophers From Descartes To Kant And Wittgenstein, And Of Psychologists From Freud To Erikson, Fromm, And Mahler * Authored By A Former Mental Health Therapist Who Has Taught Philosophy For More Than 30 Years "The present work explores not only the nature of loneliness but also its ultimate origins and whether in its beginning, as well as in its end, it is grounded in the mechanisms of the brain or instead centered in the creations of the mind."--Introduction (page xiv)