Falling in love for all the right reasons : how to find your soul mate

The founder of eHarmony online relationship service offers guidance for identifying character traits that can be measured to evaluate a couple's potential compatibility. Introduction: Matchmaker, Matchmaker xi 1 How eHarmony Began 1 2 Finding Your Soul Mate 29 GROUP 1 The Screening Dimensions 53 3 DIMENSION 1 | Good Character 55 4 DIMENSION 2 | The Quality of Your Self-Conception 61 5 DIMENSION 3 | Watch Out for Red Flags 67 6 DIMENSION 4 | Anger Management 72 7 DIMENSION S | Obstreperousness 79 8 DIMENSION 6 | Understandings About Family 85 9 DIMENSION 7 | Family Background 90 GROUP 2 The Core Personal Dimensions 99 10 DIMENSION8 | Intellect 101 11 DIMENSION 9 | Similar Energy Levels 107 12 DIMENSION 10 | Spirituality 110 13 DIMENSION 11 | Education 114 14 DIMENSION 12 | Appearance 118 15 DIMENSION 13 | Sense of Humor 121 16 DIMENSION 14 | Mood Management 124 17 DIMENSION 15 | Traditional Versus Nontraditional Personalities 127 18 DIMENSION 16 | Ambition 133 19 DIMENSION 17 | Sexual Passion 136 20 DIMENSION 18 | Artistic Passion 144 21 DIMENSION 19 | Values 147 22 DIMENSION 20 | Industry 151 23 DIMENSION 21 | Curiosity 153 24 DIMENSION 22 | Vitality and Security 155 25 DIMENSION 23 | Autonomy Versus Closeness 158 GROUP 3 Skills That Can Be Developed 161 26 DIMENSION 24 | Communication 163 27 DIMENSION 25 | Conflict Resolution 170 28 DIMENSION 26 | Sociability 181 GROUP 4 Qualities That Can Be Developed 185 29 DIMENSION 27 | Adaptability 187 30 DIMENSION 28 | Kindness 192 31 DIMENSION 29 | Dominance Versus Submissiveness 195 32 Chemistry—The Key Factor 199 33 Commitment—The Glue That Keeps It All Together 205 Appendix A: Three Secrets to a Great Relationship 217 Appendix B: Twenty Questions 229 Appendix C: Similarities or Differences 231 How eHarmony Works 235