Divorce is not the answer : a change of heart will save your marriage

Departing from current therapeutic and self-help approaches to saving troubled marriages, the author of this work identifies the most prevalent myths about what constitutes a healthy relationship and shows how these myths actually increase, rather than relieve, marital discord. Using case studies, he offers alternatives to these myths and the solutions offered by marriage counsellors, proposing that the conflicts arising in most of today's marriages are illusions created by faulty perceptions and a lack of understanding for normal human emotions. He attempts to show that marital problems are neutral situations viewed from a negative state of mind - not physical realities needing to be actively diagnosed, analyzed and resolved. Proposes that the conflicts in most of today's marriages are illusions created by faulty perceptions, and a lack of understanding of normal human emotions. Shows how couples can easily use their differences in a positive, functional way to generate feelings of intimacy, compassion, and humor Clears up misconceptions about the characteristics of a healthy relationship, identifies causes of marital discord, and offers advice on developing a more realistic view of marriage