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Although five percent of the population loses a mother or father...few of us are psychologically prepared for the experience in later life. __Death Benefits__ explores the uncharted territory each of us enters when a parent leaves us, and offers a blueprint for positive change in every aspect of our lives. __Death Benefits__ demonstrates through powerful stories (including the author’s own revelatory experience) how parent loss is the most potent catalyst for change in middle age and can actually offer us our last, best chance to become our truest, deepest selves. Safer challenges the conventional wisdom that fundamental change is only for the young; and that loss must simply be endured or overcome. Filled with moving and engaging stories of real men and women re-imagining themselves after a parent’s death, it is a fresh, impassioned, and sophisticated look at self-transformation in later life.

breaking The Final Taboo, Psychotherapist Jeanne Safer Reveals The Previously Unexplored Opportunities For Growth That Adults Can Discover After A Parent Dies And The Grieving Stops

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psychotherapist Safer Appears To Be Targeting Surviving Adult Children Of Dysfunctional Parents When She Claims, The Death Of Your Parents Can Be The Best Thing That Ever Happens To You. Safer (the Normal One: Life With A Difficult Or Damaged Sibling) Describes Her Own Mother As An Unhappy Woman Who Viewed Her Daughter As An Extension Of Herself; She Also Relates Anecdotes From Patients And 60 Interviewees Whose Parents Were Critical Or Rejecting, Or Who Significantly Impeded Their Children's Happiness And Personal Growth. In Other Cases, Parents Dominated Their Children's Lives Because Of Prolonged Illness. Safer Offers Some Perspective Along With Helpful Exercises For Adult Children To Begin To Heal From Emotional Wounds Inflicted By Their Parents. For Instance, Just As One Sorts Through A Parent's Physical Possessions And Keeps Some While Discarding Others, One Can Do The Same With Parents' Emotional Legacy. Some Will Be Shocked By The Central Idea Of Safer's Book; Others Seeking To Free Themselves From Ties That Have Bound Too Tightly Will Welcome Safer's Message: There's No Need To Feel Guilty About A Sense Of Freedom And Finding One's True Self After A Parent's Death. (may)

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Although most of us lose a mother or father in later life, few of us are psychologically prepared for the experience. This book explores the uncharted territory each of us enters when a parent leaves us, and offers a blueprint for positive change in every aspect of our lives. It demonstrates through powerful stories (including the author's own revelatory experience) how parent loss is the most potent catalyst for change in middle age and can actually offer us our last, best chance to become our truest, deepest selves. Psychotherapist Safer challenges the conventional wisdom that fundamental change is only for the young, and that loss must simply be endured or overcome. Filled with moving and engaging stories of real men and women re-imagining themselves after a parent's death, this is a fresh, impassioned, and sophisticated look at self-transformation in later life.--From publisher description. My death benefit (autobiography) Death benefits : the last taboo Going through the stuff : choosing a legacy Using the good china : deserving a life at last My body, my self : health and beauty benefits Till death do us part : marriage and divorce Lifted up in my mother's arms : religious epiphanies A voice of my own : creative self-expression Father knows best? The punitive parent dies Mom's best friend : the end of emotional caretaking The eleventh hour : near-death revelations Perspectives from the deathspace In their end is my beginning : cultivating death benefits. When psychotherapist Jeanne Safer lost her mother, she was determined to turn her loss into an opportunity for insight and growth. Through her own experience, her work with patients, and in-depth interviews, Safer shows that the death of a parent can be a catalyst for change. In this updated paperback edition, Safer includes a helpful resource section, including information on hospice care, rehabilitation programs, and more. Bold, surprising, and compassionate, Death Benefits challenges the idea that loss must simply be endured or overcome.