Controlling People : How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

This book fails at everything its subtitle promises the reader. It just focuses on stories and the author's interpretations of what happened. She does not really understand controlling people since she simplfies what really goes on in the mind of a manipulator and barely explains how he/she got that way to begin with. The only advice she gives to those who are being controlled is to say "what?" to every attempt of the manipulator to control them. If I were to follow this advice, the relative whom I am having problems with will make fun of me. Manipulators are very clever at exploiting anything their victims say or do to gain the upper hand on the situation.

In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans tackles the controlling personality, and reveals how and why people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior -- even as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern, or spell, be broken? Yes! says the author.

By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur. Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.

Library Journal

An interpersonal communications specialist, Evans (The Verbally Abusive Relationship) has written a timely book that not only helps readers free themselves from controlling types but also seeks to explain the occurrence of verbal abuse, battering, stalking, harassment, hate crimes, gang violence, tyranny, terrorism, and territorial invasion. What she calls a compelling force overcomes these controllers; because they sense the overwhelming psychic pain, distress, and discord permeating the world, they must impose a twisted kind of order on their friends, lovers, and acquaintances. Often, she continues, people with good intentions end up doing the opposite of what they would need to do to realize a goal or fulfill a need. This is a compelling work, but it belongs in the hands of counselors; lay readers who feel controlled will find it worthwhile but hard going. Public and academic libraries with special collections on relationships should also strongly consider.-Susan E. Burdick, MLS, Reading, PA Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.

Learn how to “break the spell” of control with this bestseller hailed by Oprah Winfrey. Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a “spell-breaking” mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation.Does this sound like someone you know? •Always needs to be right •Tells you who you are and what you think •Implies that you're wrong or inadequate when you don't agree •Is threatened by people who are “different” •Feels attacked when questioned •Doesn't seem to really hear or see you If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the “controlling personality,” and reveals how and why these people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior—even as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur. Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person. Learn how to break the spell of control with this bestseller hailed by Oprah Winfrey. Controlling People reveals the thought processes of those who try to control others and provides a spell-breaking mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Does this sound like someone you know? *Always needs to be right *Tells you who you are and what you think *Implies that youre wrong or inadequate when you dont agree *Is threatened by people who are different *Feels attacked when questioned *Doesnt seem to really hear or see you If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People , bestselling author Patricia Evans, tackles the controlling personality, and reveals how and why these people try to run other peoples lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavioreven as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern or spell be broken? YES, says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker . Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur. Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person. In Controlling People , bestselling author Patricia Evans ( The Verbally Abusive Relationship ) tackles the "controlling personality," and reveals why and how these people try to run other people's lives. Does this sound like someone you know? Always needs to be right Tells you who you are and what you think Implies that you're wrong or inadequate when you don't agree Is threatened by people different from him- or herself Feels attacked when questioned Doesn't seem to really hear or see you If any of the traits above sound familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People , bestselling author Patricia Evans ( The Verbally Abusive Relationship ) tackles the "controlling personality," and reveals why and how these people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior-even as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Patricia Evans is the founder of the Evans... Learn how to 'break the spell' of control with Patricia Evans ' new bestseller. Already hailed by Oprah Winfrey, Controlling People deals with issues big and small - revealing the thought processes of those who seek to control in order to provide a 'spell-breaking' mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Invaluable insight and advice for those who seek support.

Describes the "controlling personality," explaining why these people try to run other's lives, the compulsion that drives this behavior, and how to break free from this type of person. Have you ever been puzzled or disturbed by the behavior of a family member, friend, or coworker and found yourself wondering, What's going on?