Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids : 8 Principles for Raising Kids You'll Love to Live with

When a child believes he is bad, he behaves badly, and parents react badly, which will only reinforce the child's belief that he is bad. But confident parents can break this cycle and improve their child's misbehavior, says child development specialist Bonnie Harris. Using Harris's eight parenting principles designed to help children succeed, parents will learn the following truths: my child wants to be successful; behavior is the signal to my child's emotional state; inappropriate behavior means my child is having a problem, not being a problem; my needs are no more or no less important than my child's; I accept my child as a competent and unique individual; the behavior I focus on grows; I need to say what my child can hear; good discipline requires connection; and punishment breaks connection. Putting these principles to work allows parents to abandon the typical reward and punishment system of discipline (which alienates child and parent), and replace it with a more compassionate, successful approach that brings parent and child together. With Harris's plan, parents will gain the confidence and skills to raise remarkable kids they will love to live with--and vice versa. When a child believes he is bad, he behaves badly{u2014}and parents react badly, which will only reinforce the child{u2019}s belief that he is bad. But confident parents can break this cycle and improve their child{u2019}s misbehavior, says child development specialist Bonnie Harris. Using Harris{u2019}s eight parenting principles designed to help children succeed, parents will learn the following truths: my child wants to be successful; behavior is the signal to my child{u2019}s emotional state; inappropriate behavior means my child is having a problem, not being a problem; my needs are no more or no less important than my child{u2019}s; I accept my child as a competent and unique individual; the behavior I focus on grows; I need to say what my child can hear; good discipline requires connection; and punishment breaks connection. Putting these principles to work allows parents to abandon the typical reward and punishment system of discipline (which alienates child and parent), and replace it with a more compassionate, successful approach that brings parent and child together. With Harris{u2019}s plan, parents will gain the confidence and skills to raise remarkable kids they will love to live with{u2014}and vice versa pt. 1. The eight principles of confident parenting. The first principle : my child wants to be successful The second principle : behavior is my clue The third principle : my child's greatest need is acceptance The fourth principle : expectations must be set for success The fifth principle : connection strengthens relationship The sixth principle : the behavior I focus on grows The seventh principle : problem solving, not punishment, teaches responsibility The eighth principle : good boundaries mean good balance pt. 2. Applying the eight principles to daily life. The morning rush Chores Sibling rivalry Peer pressure Homework Mealtime Bedtime. Presents 8 core principles of a parenting philosophy. This book focuses on common aspects of daily life, putting the principles into skills for use situations such as: getting out the door, mealtime, homework and school, chores and allowance, sibling rivalry, and bedtime. Harris Presents A Kinder, Gentler Way To Improve Your Child's Behavior. With Eight Trademark Parenting Principles, She Shows You How To Break Cycles Of Bad Behavior-- Your Own As Well Has Your Child's.