Compelled to Control (Revised)

this exciting book breaks new ground in identifying the major cause of relationship failure as the need to control - in marriages and families, with friends and within organizations. Compelled to Control reflects Miller's sweeping knowledge as a thinker, a speakers and a writer. Going far beyond "how to control a controller," Miller speaks from the perspective of experience and personal change. "When a controller has the sense of life being out of control," he says, "he or she reacts with an even stronger need to 'get things under control'...usually with the negative result of alienating the people who matter the most." Miller tackles this deeply denied, seemingly universal phenomenon with compassion and offers a way out of the dilemma. He tells who to approach broken relationships in new ways, leaving behind destructive patterns of perfectionism and self-justification. Keith miller is one of those rare writers who can combine intellectual acuity with deeply felt insight born of his own struggle for authenticity. Compelled to Control is an impressive contribution to the literature of recovery and personal change. this exciting book breaks new ground in identifying the major cause of relationship failure as the need to control — in marriages and families, with friends and within organizations. Compelled to Control reflects Miller's sweeping knowledge as a thinker, a speakers and a writer. Going far beyond "how to control a controller," Miller speaks from the perspective of experience and personal change. "When a controller has the sense of life being out of control," he says, "he or she reacts with an even stronger need to 'get things under control'...usually with the negative result of alienating the people who matter the most." Miller tackles this deeply denied, seemingly universal phenomenon with compassion and offers a way out of the dilemma. He tells who to approach broken relationships in new ways, leaving behind destructive patterns of perfectionism and self-justification. Keith miller is one of those rare writers who can combine intellectual acuity with deeply felt insight born of his own struggle for authenticity. Compelled to Control is an impressive contribution to the literature of recovery and personal change. In broken business and personal relationships, the underlying cause is the "persistent, irresistible urge to control other people and situations". In this insightful, readable book, Miller identifies the origins of this control "disease", describes in detail how it infiltrates our lives, producing co-dependency and other dysfunctions, and makes specific suggestions on how to repair the problem and heal its emotional damage. This text identifies the major cause of relationship failure as the need to control; in marriages, and families, with friends and within organizations. It looks at the need to control and insists that this deserves to be treated as a disease in itself.