Bullying scars : the impact on adult life and relationships

The book describes childhood bullying from the vantage point of those victims, bullies, and bystanders who are now adults ... discusses how lives have been changed, and explores the range of reactions adults exhibit. The research gathered for this book, through interviews with over 800 people, points out that even adult decision-making is often altered by the victimization they experience as children at the hands of peers, siblings, parents, or educators."--Publisher description;Bullying: the parameters of the problem into adulthood -- Adult post-bullying syndrome -- Being different: the traces that difference leaves behind -- People-pleasing versus revenge: consequences on development of being bullied -- Consequences in relationships -- "Angry words echo in my brain": health and mental health impacts -- "I am so self-conscious": the impact of sexual harassment -- Does bullying affect decisions? -- It comes home to roost: bullying and the family -- Is there anything positive?: unexpected outcomes of bullying and harassment An explosion of research on bullying has raised our collective awareness of the serious impacts it can have on children. No longer do we accept it as an innocuous rite of passage, just a part of growing up that we grin and bear and grow out of later. But do we grow out of it, or are there lingering effects that last well beyond the school playgrounds and lunchrooms? Is bullying traumatic and, if so, does it last into adult life? Are there life-long consequences or are the effects pretty much shed as people grow? Are some of us more resilient than others? Are there any positive or unexpected outcomes as a result of being bullied (or having been a bully) as a child? In an effort to answer these questions, Bullying Scars describes childhood bullying from the vantage point of those victims, bullies, and bystanders who are now adults; the book discusses how lives have been changed, and explores the range of reactions adults exhibit.The research gathered for this book, through interviews with over 800 people, points out that even adult decision-making is often altered by the victimization they experience as children at the hands of peers, siblings, parents, or educators. Written in an engaging and accessible style that draws heavily from the rich interview data that deLara has collected, this book will be of interest to anyone struggling with the lingering effects of being bullied. Additionally, it is highly relevant to mental health professionals -- counselors, therapists, social workers, clinical psychologists -- working with clients who are dealing with these issues. "The book describes childhood bullying from the vantage point of those victims, bullies, and bystanders who are now adults ... discusses how lives have been changed, and explores the range of reactions adults exhibit. The research gathered for this book, through interviews with over 800 people, points out that even adult decision-making is often altered by the victimization they experience as children at the hands of peers, siblings, parents, or educators."--Publisher description. Read more... Abstract: When we are bullied, we experience anxiety, stress, relationship strain, depression, and in persistent and severe cases, suicidal ideation that can lead to attempts or violent behavior against the bullies themselves or others. But what about the lasting effects? Read more...