After the Baby : Making Sense of Marriage After Childbirth

Conversational and practical, __After the Baby__ teaches couples about the natural progression of their marriage as it expands to include children. An essential guide for strengthening marriage while becoming parents, it offers both help and hope for building better families.

This book navigates you through the process from couplehood to parenthood.

Publishers Weekly

While having a baby is often presumed to be one of the most profoundly joyful and intimate events in a marriage, this refreshing book examines the emotional upheaval that usually comes with it. Having interviewed more than 200 couples repeatedly over a 10-year period, Nordin reminds us that the birth of a child--even if it's a second or third child--plunges a couple into new rhythms, roles and responsibilities. The convergence of physical and emotional changes, sleep deprivation, constant child care, increased housework and worry over new financial responsibilities often results in "frequent disagreements, an emotional distance, and a stalemate to cooperation" between new parents. With less time and energy for each other and themselves, Nordin contends, new parents frequently lose both the sexual and emotional intimacy they previously enjoyed, at a time when they most need to pull together. These challenges, and unrealistic assumptions, end many marriages in the early years of parenthood. Offering hope that parenthood can provide "opportunities for growth and a deepening of the marital commitment," Nordin examines many common issues in detail with concrete examples for resolving them. Her weakest chapter relies on dubious scare tactics to steer couples away from divorce, lest their children's lives be ruined forever. Her strongest argument, reserved for a brief last chapter, is that the long-term rewards and benefits of weathering storms in the parenting process ultimately outweigh the growing pains and sacrifices made along the way. (May) Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.|

A new baby brings exciting, dramatic, and unexpected changes into your life. But the stresses and necessary adjustments that accompany your joyful new addition can strain many marriages--sometimes to the breaking point. Based on nine years of research and the views of hundreds of couples and experts, AFTER THE BABY navigates you through the process from couplehood to parenthood